Hi Runmelon51,

Just to make sure I'm giving you the right answer, are you on the combination pill? Or are you on the mini-pill?

Hi Demigirl, I'm happy to provide some starting places for those books! A few I like personally include the LumberJanes series, "Redefining Realness" (which is non-fiction but her romantic relationship is a happy one), and "Stage Dreams" by Melanie Gilman. This list from Autostra...

Hi Trvllver, So, while it's possible to have a false negative (or a false positive) pregnancy test, taking multiple ones and having them all come back negative means you can assume that's the correct result. Too, someone who is pregnant will not get their period or their withdrawal bleed (if they're...

Blech, it can so suck to get a surprise dysphoria discovery! When we're talking about toys that are for external stimulation, those are toys that are designed to be used mainly or only on the outside of our genitals rather than being inserted into our bodies. Some trans guys report preferring those ...

People do usually have celebrity crushes now and then, even if they haven't met someone in real life who inspires those same emotions. But at the same time, attraction is an odd beast, and for some of us it just happens less frequently than for others. It does sound like dysphoria is in the mix here...

I'm glad you feel comfortable enough to do that. Too, especially if you're not actively involved in a conversation, you're always allowed to get up or otherwise disengage from it (although if you're in class at the time sometimes you have to opt for ignoring them).

Bring generally shy can for sure add to that discomfort when people are talking about "taboo" subjects. Do you feel like you're comfortable redirecting the conversation when it gets to a point where you're not comfortable with the subject matter?

Hi Mika, It's pretty common for folks to be sex positive in general but still have some limits about where or with who they're comfortable talking about sex with. Do you think some of your discomfort might be due to your not wanting to think about friends in sexual situations? Or maybe that when you...

I'm glad that using either fluid or omni works for you when it comes to describing your sexual orientation! Something I'll add is that, as you've noticed, how we describe our orientation is a little context dependent (including whether we think the person we're talking to will know a particular term...

Hi shigaraki, I'm sorry that your mom hasn't been supportive of your identity, and that she's trying to invalidate your experiences with your own gender and sexual orientation. We can certainly brainstorm some ways to try and have a useful conversation with her about all this. For starters, when she...

I think, then, we might have hit the end of where we can take this particular conversation, at least for now. Because a lot of the things we've recommended, or could recommend, that could help with that over-identification and attachment to a fictional character and relationship are going to require...

Hi Lalaro2, Since this isn't a totally new behavior in terms of them being toxic to you, I'm inclined to agree with your therapist that reducing contact with them when you can might be a good idea. Are you working toward moving out right now? In terms of this current incident, I think it'd be wise t...

Hi Keszj,

When you notice that liquid, does it tend to happen around when you orgasm at all? And does the experience of it feel like when you urinate, or does it feel different from when you go to the bathroom?

Hi Nat, Can you say a little more about why the lack of happy relationships for trans feminine people in media lead to you feeling like you, personally, need to have a relationship of your own right this second? As far as sexual orientation goes, a rule I find helpful is to not assume you know the a...

I think that's a really succinct, respectful way to express that!

Hi Transman, This is a totally okay section to put this question in! Managing dysphoria around masturbation can for sure be tricky, especially if your genitals are big source of dysphoria for you, period. But there are a few different things you could experiment with to see if they help remove, or a...

Hi Transman, There are a few different things that could be at play here. One could be that, as cliche as it is, you haven't encountered someone who sets off that kind of attraction in you; part of the reason people can have such wildly different timelines when it comes to dating is because dating r...

Hi Ryan111,

When condoms break, it's going to be obvious; there will be a large rip or tear that you can easily see, and sometimes the person wearing it, their partner, or both can actually feel it happen. So if you didn't see any tears, then you can assume the condom stayed intact and did its job.

I'm sorry to hear that they've left you feeling that way! I think, in those moments, it can help to remember that there really isn't such a thing as "normal" when it comes to sex or pleasure. There are just the things that feel good to our unique bodies.

Hi Puppiez, I promise there's nothing wrong with you. While it's true that the majority of people with vaginas need clitoral stimulation in order to reach orgasm, there are also people who find they're able to reach orgasm without that. Bodies are diverse, and that extends to the ways in which they ...

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Okay! So, one thing that can be helpful is to remind yourself of what I mentioned before: a lot of people for their opinions about BDSM and related topics based on some pretty limited information. Remembering they're likely speaking from a place of ignorance can make it easier to ignore their commen...

Got it. I know we have other users who have shared similar feelings, so hopefully some will chime in here!

Too, if it would be helpful, we could also talk about ways to make it less likely that these kinds of comments will get under your skin.

Hi galixygirl69, It can for sure be hard when we hear people being ignorant or judgemental of things we enjoy or that are important to us. And BDSM is something where a lot of people's basic understanding of it is shaped by media that tends to portray it in a narrow or inaccurate way, so their comme...

In terms of hygiene, if you're not sure you'll have reliable access to the sink, having some hand wipes/wet wipes around can be helpful (and honestly I tend to keep a pack around anyway because they're great for day to day cleaning like when I inevitably spill coffee on my desk). Plus, they're a com...