- Write in my journal - Reread my old journals - Read - Write fiction - Reread old things I've written - Read and edit/add examples on a site called TVTropes - Play Just Dance - Crochet (which reminds me I need a new project. So far I've made scarves for my boyfriend and I, and an earwarmer with a c...

Going to separate this into "anyone I'm reasonably close with" and "boyfriend-only", just for fun. General - Having my hair brushed/stroked/braided - Ballroom style dancing ("If dancing like that was still popular, I'd have gone to every dance in high school". I had a h...

To add on to that last one, using your wording: "hey, you're doing this wrong" I'd like to point out that you're not really telling him he's doing something wrong (since, as Sam alluded to, there's pretty much no "wrong" with sex); rather, you're saying that you don't like someth...

I'd like to chime in that I think this I don't really trust that her boyfriend will stick around once he gets sex from her, is something you can address with her, but again, you should make it clear that she gets to make her own decisions. You'll also want to stick to the stuff he has actually said/...

I got an A in the capstone course for my major! :D This involved picking a topic, picking a board of professors, writing a 20 page paper with support from valid sources, and discussing said paper with said board for an hour. From the board I got a B+. The paper, the professor who graded it said, was...

Ooh, he likes science; does he consider himself nerdy? There are lots of cool items with science-related punny pick-up lines or in-jokes on them. You could even pick a line from one of those as inspiration for making something (decorated mug/bag/"poster"/etc.) yourself! (Example: my boyfri...

(Alpha Centauri. That's pretty awesome. :P I love it.) I would say a couple more questions to think about are: What are the "intimacy and companionship" that you don't have in your life and are looking for? What specific types of activities/feelings/etc does that entail? Why does this idea...

From personal experience regarding the saying sweet things: something that may help in that conversation is to talk about "love languages". (The idea was presented in a Christian book, but I think it's perfectly meaningful in and of itself without any religious references.) The idea is sim...

Ooh, I just noticed the conversation here about media that defies the pattern of friends -> romantic/sexual relationship -> (maybe) breakup -> (maybe) return to romantic sexual relationship. I just read, and love, a book and its sequel that do: Nobody's Princess and Nobody's Prize by Esther Friesner...

I think there are two different ways of being "friendzoned", which are both difficult in their own ways. (I don't think it benefits anybody to pretend it doesn't suck when you have feelings for someone who does not have similar feelings for you, or choose to act on them. Everyone should de...

I think the thing to think about is, like Heather asked last time, So, why analyze this or try and -- what sounds to me, anyway -- talk yourself into something or someone it seems like you're getting internal cues isn't a thing for you? You have said that -- This guy doesn't enjoy a sexual activity ...

"I don't really know that what I have to offer is worth putting up with all of the problems I have if I also take sex out of the equation. And I don't want to be alone forever." When you look at things this way, you're basically setting up sex as a commodity, as something that you do for ...

A couple more questions to think about: You say you "always swore you'd wait until marriage" for sex, whatever kinds of sex you mean. Why was that? You've been through the checklist and decided you're ready for sex, which is great. Think about being ready for marriage... What would you put...

Another thing you might want to think about is what "I want to share everything with him" means to you. What specifically are you thinking of that you'd be sharing with him in a marriage that you aren't/wouldn't be sharing with him as it is now?

"Drive" is a great one. Also by Incubus, I like "The Warmth". "Hold Your Head Up" by Argent and "You're Only Human" by Billy Joel are both upbeat, groovy motivating songs. (There's a cool story about that second one: at one point Billy Joel stumbles over the w...

Like Sam, I'd say it's a good thing he was honest. Look at it this way, would you have wanted him to say he was in a relationship with someone he thought was ugly, boring and stupid? (Would you prefer an ex of yours to describe you insultingly, or say that you were a good person but things happened ...

Well, first I want to congratulate you on being willing to let things go when it looked like you'd have to do that: that is a thing that if I remember right you weren't so confident about in the past. So that's awesome. And, good job bringing up that the lack of contact leaves you wondering where yo...

I was 18 before I really had a crush that I felt like acting on. Through high school I was definitely attracted to guys, I just never really wanted to tell them or try to pursue a relationship. It was just fun to think about! Just past 18 I found the first guy I really wanted to date, but he decided...

Sunshine, it's funny what you bring up as some of the best things about a long distance relationship are some of the hardest things for me! I hate feeling compelled to not bring up a problem because I don't want to 'ruin' a visit. And I'm an introvert so it's hard to spend all my time with anybody o...

I like that a lot. ^

And I didn't mean to assume monogamy. I was trying to phrase it so it would accommodate both monogamy, if that's relevant, and just plain staying in the relationship.

I'm in a long distance relationship myself, and on Tumblr I've gotten to know a lot of couples. I think that if people want to be in a relationship, it's always worth a try. If they don't stay together, it's no different than trying anything else and it not working. (And you did say you like trying ...

Urgh, just saw a bit of a reality show where people were mocking the idea of sex where you could see each other (during the day, with the lights on...). "Who wants to see cellulite! Or tummy rolls! Or... a penis!" *cue hysterical laughter* It was bad enough that they're evidently married t...

CuriousEmpath (love the name, by the way), I thought of these articles written by someone experienced with BDSM: http://pervocracy.blogspot.com/p/fifty-shades-of-grey-index.html. This one, about the negotiation, actually taught me a lot about how BDSM works: http://pervocracy.blogspot.com/2013/10/le...

Sucks when that happens, doesn't it? I was more thinking, though, what would they do? What would be things that a person would do that would make you think, oh, they seem like they're interested in dating me? That might be a good way of figuring out what you can do to give the same message. If on th...

So here's a thing to think about: when you say something like that, that you hope someone will see your interest in them as romantic, what do you imagine that looking like? Like, what would they do or say to show that?