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- Mon Dec 11, 2023 10:02 am
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: possible hormonal problems?
- Replies: 2
- Views: 10320
Re: possible hormonal problems?
Hey there: since you're in the US healthcare system, the most efficient -- and most likely to be covered by your insurance or public health -- way for you to get the right healthcare for this would be for your therapist to share this information with your PCP (primary care provider), and then THEY c...
- Mon Dec 11, 2023 9:47 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Pregnancy Scare
- Replies: 5
- Views: 7336
Re: Pregnancy Scare
I want to start with this, in the hopes it will give you some immediate ease: When pregnant people report that "fluttering" they tend to romantically think it is the fetus. However, what that feeling usually is is gas. Secondly, there are usually VERY specific circumstances to people not k...
- Sun Dec 10, 2023 2:27 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Buying sex toys
- Replies: 3
- Views: 4247
Re: Buying sex toys
Target doesn't usually carry a wide selection of sex toys, but that said, if yours had something you wanted, I'd be pretty surprised if they carded you. And if they did, it's not like you'd be in any trouble for trying to buy something, since the legal issue isn't on the buyer, but the seller, end o...
- Sun Dec 10, 2023 2:24 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Period is 2 weeks late
- Replies: 7
- Views: 4405
Re: Period is 2 weeks late
Hi there. I think this needs to be the last response we put here when it comes to your scare, because it seems like the way your anxiety is operating, you're just having a hard time accepting and believing the facts. You got a negative result. What happened after the test sat isn't an indication of ...
- Sun Dec 10, 2023 2:17 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Buying sex toys
- Replies: 3
- Views: 4247
Re: Buying sex toys
Hey there. You do have to be a legal adult to go into sex toy shops in all states of the US, and because they can get in big legal hot water if they sell to minors, while they might not card at the door, I wouldn't advise buying from a shop until you're of age for that reason. It's tough to run an i...
- Sun Dec 10, 2023 10:25 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: tender/sensitive breasts
- Replies: 3
- Views: 2816
Re: tender/sensitive breasts
I'm not sure what you mean by "breast foreplay." "Foreplay" is a really vague term that straight people often use to describe anything and everything they can do before intercourse. It doesn't really tell me anything about the kind of breast stimulation you're asking about. Did w...
- Sun Dec 10, 2023 10:23 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: I'm in love with an older guy
- Replies: 15
- Views: 8555
Re: I'm in love with an older guy
Are you asking about that first article you talked about, Alex? If so, that was a piece from 2008: it's a very old one, and it's only a piece from one given writer. She's not here anymore for me to bring her whatever questions and concerns you have, so I can't speak for her motivations about it or a...
- Sun Dec 10, 2023 10:21 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Confusion about PIV...
- Replies: 11
- Views: 9367
Re: Confusion about PIV...
Hey there. I think that something that makes answering the kinds of questions you're asking impossible is that "women" -- and it sounds like you expressly mean cisgender women -- is a group of BILLIONS of people. Because of that, trying to sort out what works and doesn't, what's good and i...
- Thu Dec 07, 2023 12:17 pm
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: struggling with sexual identity labels as a minor
- Replies: 3
- Views: 55565
Re: struggling with sexual identity labels as a minor
Always happy to help. I think it makes the most sense to center yourself in this, thinking about how other people might react very secondarily. One, because whatever words you decide to use for yourself in any of this, there is literally no situation in which you are going to be required to share th...
- Wed Dec 06, 2023 11:57 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Pregnancy Scare
- Replies: 3
- Views: 5495
Re: Pregnancy Scare
Hi there, Anne. Who are the people talking to you about this? Whoever they are, something you can do for yourself when you're in a scare like this is both limiting who you talk to about it, and asking those you DO talk to to keep their talk about it with you supportive, or else not talk to you at al...
- Wed Dec 06, 2023 10:31 am
- Forum: Et Cetera
- Topic: Why do I get upset over things that aren't a big deal?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 13247
Re: Why do I get upset over things that aren't a big deal?
Morning, Rachel. My experience is that this is the case for a lot of people, but for sure, some kinds of neurodivergence can make it happen more often, be harder to let go of when it does happen, or both. Personally, I wouldn't get hung up on the validity of any of your kinds of upset. We feel what ...
- Wed Dec 06, 2023 10:27 am
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: struggling with sexual identity labels as a minor
- Replies: 3
- Views: 55565
Re: struggling with sexual identity labels as a minor
Good morning. :) You know, the person who will always be the most -- and sometimes the only! -- effected by what words we use for any of the parts of ourselves is us. And often how we figure out who we are, what our identity is, be it with sex or with things like religion, community, what have you, ...
- Wed Dec 06, 2023 10:14 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: hymen problems?
- Replies: 7
- Views: 8405
Re: hymen problems?
It doesn't sound like anything is likely actually wrong here to me, just like common variations we can see of the vulva and vaginal opening. But periods shouldn't cause vaginal or vulval pain, if that's what you mean by "thing," and it's also usually okay to see a sexual healthcare provide...
- Mon Dec 04, 2023 12:37 pm
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: is teenage love real?
- Replies: 3
- Views: 7939
Re: is teenage love real?
Hi there, chailover. As you can probably figure out what "the college experience" even is varies by a whole lot, and that includes people's experiences of their sexual lives in college. For some people that's no partners at all, for others it is a handful of different partners, be they cas...
- Sun Dec 03, 2023 10:30 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: hymen problems?
- Replies: 7
- Views: 8405
Re: hymen problems?
Did you touch it? Might it have been mucus/discharge rather than tissue (skin)?
- Sun Dec 03, 2023 8:28 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: I feel dread when it comes to sex but have a high libido, I'm confused
- Replies: 5
- Views: 5414
Re: I feel dread when it comes to sex but have a high libido, I'm confused
Hi there, Alex. It sounds to me like, in line with what Latha has suggested, that you approach any sex with your partner here form the standpoint of what feels okay as far as trauma goes, rather than by trying to reach orgasm. Trying to reach orgasm in this situation sounds to me a little bit like s...
- Sun Dec 03, 2023 8:24 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Bleeding after losing virginity
- Replies: 1
- Views: 5374
Re: Bleeding after losing virginity
Hi there, and welcome to the boards. So, bleeding isn't "supposed" to happen with sex, period, and it usually doesn't, including with first time intercourse. When it does, it's usually due to a minor injury by way of abrasion, due to not using lubricant or not using enough, a partner or ev...
- Sun Dec 03, 2023 8:19 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Unsure if I should approach this guy or not
- Replies: 23
- Views: 1645738
Re: Unsure if I should approach this guy or not
You know, it sounds to me like this guy already has a pretty full roster, and from what I can tell from your posts so far, you're not looking for what sounds most likely to be a one-time thing with someone you only are attracted to physically.
Do I have that right?
Do I have that right?
- Sun Dec 03, 2023 8:17 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: How do I make masturbation go quicker? (Or libido lessen faster?)
- Replies: 14
- Views: 6501
Re: How do I make masturbation go quicker? (Or libido lessen faster?)
I just think that because you are so clear that you also do not really want to be masturbating, that continuing to do that while also feeling so much discomfort with having these desires in the first place is not a great choice for your mental health or towards hopefully, in time, resolving all of t...
- Thu Nov 30, 2023 10:24 am
- Forum: Et Cetera
- Topic: Deeply in love with a fictional character, to the point of it causing other mental health issues
- Replies: 15
- Views: 18956
- Thu Nov 30, 2023 10:24 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: How do I make masturbation go quicker? (Or libido lessen faster?)
- Replies: 14
- Views: 6501
Re: How do I make masturbation go quicker? (Or libido lessen faster?)
So, "libido" is just a word for sexual desire, just so we're all on the same page. I asked how long this lasts to find out how long you'd have to potentially feel uncomfortable for if you didn't masturbate to try and quell it. If that was minutes or hours, that would obviously be very diff...
- Wed Nov 29, 2023 10:08 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Unsure if I should approach this guy or not
- Replies: 23
- Views: 1645738
Re: Unsure if I should approach this guy or not
No judgment about just being physically attracted to someone! I was just trying to get a sense of the bigger picture. That said, if you're not just looking for a sexual interaction or relationship, my advice would be to try and get a better sense of him as a person first before, say, asking him out,...
- Wed Nov 29, 2023 9:51 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Unsure if I should approach this guy or not
- Replies: 23
- Views: 1645738
Re: Unsure if I should approach this guy or not
Hey there, Lexie. Welcome to the boards. :) Can you tell me a little more about what you know about him besides what he looks like and what interactions with other girls he may or may not have had? What draws you to him, besides finding his appearance appealing? Can you also tell me what you mean wh...
- Wed Nov 29, 2023 9:17 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: How do I make masturbation go quicker? (Or libido lessen faster?)
- Replies: 14
- Views: 6501
Re: How do I make masturbation go quicker? (Or libido lessen faster?)
For how long does that last, those feelings? A few minutes? Hours? Days? Longer?
- Wed Nov 29, 2023 9:17 am
- Forum: Et Cetera
- Topic: Deeply in love with a fictional character, to the point of it causing other mental health issues
- Replies: 15
- Views: 18956
Re: Deeply in love with a fictional character, to the point of it causing other mental health issues
You know, Laaviv, some of what you're saying here sounds a lot like some talk I have heard from my friends and colleagues over the years who are fiction writers. I have absolutely heard people who feel very attached to some of their characters (this is sometimes called a parasocial relationship, if ...