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- Wed Jun 23, 2021 4:14 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Feel like I was used
- Replies: 5
- Views: 4937
Re: Feel like I was used
I'm glad that yesterday was a good day for you! You know, if you learnt that flings don't suit you because you like to know someone better then that's perfectly okay. I want to reiterate though that you did nothing wrong . You chose something that felt good in the moment. He broke your trust. This i...
- Wed Jun 23, 2021 4:06 am
- Forum: Abuse & Assault
- Topic: Not understanding how to feel
- Replies: 7
- Views: 7652
Re: Not understanding how to feel
Hi Red_Scarlet, No need to apologise, you can take as much time as you need to reply and we'll be here. And this kind of thing is exactly what we're here for you to talk to us about. I just want to make sure that I'm getting my facts straight here, it sounds like you're saying you were abused by you...
- Wed Jun 23, 2021 3:50 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Disappointed in my bf
- Replies: 9
- Views: 7068
Re: Disappointed in my bf
Hi Hel, This sounds really positive! I would say not to pressure yourself to feel 100% okay, or like you have to completely move on immediately. It sounds like transitioning from romance to friendship is the right thing for you both, but it's okay to acknowledge the losses in there too if you're fee...
- Wed Jun 23, 2021 3:47 am
- Forum: Gender
- Topic: Someone at school outed me and now I feel betrayed
- Replies: 11
- Views: 8882
Re: Someone at school outed me and now I feel betrayed
Hi Hel, I'm glad that your roommate was able to take responsibility and is doing her best to help reduce the fallout. She's probably right that if the flames of gossip aren't stoked then people will mostly move on and talk about other things, but it can still be hard knowing that such personal stuff...
- Wed Jun 23, 2021 3:39 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: My confusion about the penis
- Replies: 6
- Views: 5110
Re: My confusion about the penis
Hi OtherAngel, The key thing to take away here is that porn isn't a great measure of how sex usually happens in real life. For a lot of people a lot of the time, if they're giving oral on a penis they won't have anything like the whole thing in their mouth. Just like that position of one person stan...
- Sun Jun 20, 2021 7:52 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever
- Replies: 106
- Views: 48130
Re: No Sexual Desire or Pleasure, Ever
Hi sandpiper, Learning what "no" feels like for us can definitely be a process, and it's definitely tricky to come to terms with realising that we've not always acted in line with what we *actually* want. In general, I find that understanding "no" is easier when we know what &quo...
- Sun Jun 20, 2021 5:23 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Sex-repulsed, worried about changes to partner's sex drive on HRT
- Replies: 3
- Views: 3865
Re: Sex-repulsed, worried about changes to partner's sex drive on HRT
Hi there vambrace! I want to start out by saying it's okay to feel nervous about how big changes in your partners life are going to affect you and your relationship with them, even as we want what's best for them and to see them happy. Have you looked for resources for partners of trans people? You ...
- Wed May 26, 2021 3:44 am
- Forum: Sex, Culture and Politics
- Topic: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc
- Replies: 10
- Views: 27647
Re: Queer Sci-fi Novels - Wayfarers etc
OMG OMG OMG Broken Earth and Time War are both just *heart-eyes*
I've only read Who Fears Death from Okorafor, but this is a good reminder to pick her up again
I've only read Who Fears Death from Okorafor, but this is a good reminder to pick her up again
- Wed May 12, 2021 8:07 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: I think I have PTSD and it's making me have trust issues
- Replies: 5
- Views: 7823
Re: I think I have PTSD and it's making me have trust issues
Hi Hel, I'm sorry that you're struggling with this. Self-diagnosis quizzes can help you learn more about something you feel might be affecting you but at the end of the day they need to be backed up with support from a professional. You say you already have a counsellor, are they someone who has exp...
Re: Cleaning
Looks like you've got all the advice you need here Whimsy-Clover, and as Sofi said your skin just might be a slightly different colour there. Just want to make clear on EdSnow's point, FemFresh might do some gentle unscented soap but they also do a lot of scented wipes, sprays and other things that ...
- Wed May 05, 2021 3:22 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: I get overstimulated so easy when masturbating
- Replies: 3
- Views: 8036
Re: I get overstimulated so easy when masturbating
My pleasure, so glad you're feeling reassured I'm happy to talk more if you have any follow-up questions too!
- Fri Apr 30, 2021 5:17 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions
- Replies: 26
- Views: 11527
Re: Another Ex and a lot of mixed emotions
Hi Buddyboi, I'm confident that you've made the right decision in breaking up with your ex, but it's still a lot to grieve - I'm sorry. I honestly feel like you need to give yourself permission to feel like crap and just do the basics required to keep yourself healthy and your life ticking over for ...
- Fri Apr 30, 2021 4:47 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Circumcision
- Replies: 1
- Views: 2702
Re: Circumcision
Hi QU210054, The short answer is no, there isn't any evidence to suggest that circumcision will make pearly penile papules go away. Sure, sometimes they decrease or fade away over time but there isn't a direct link between getting circumcised and them going away if you already have them. Do you want...
- Fri Apr 30, 2021 4:42 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: I get overstimulated so easy when masturbating
- Replies: 3
- Views: 8036
Re: I get overstimulated so easy when masturbating
Hi Elias! It's not at all unusual for you to be feeling aroused more, or noticing that you're more sensitive where you have bottom growth having started on T. Honestly, what you're describing sounds like what plenty of people, trans or not, experience when they first start to masturbate. This feels ...
- Fri Apr 30, 2021 4:19 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Trying to getting to know my vulva after ignoring it for years
- Replies: 7
- Views: 9088
Re: Trying to getting to know my vulva after ignoring it for years
Hi Elias, I'm late to the party here so probably you've already had the appointment but in case it's useful in the future there are two things you can ask for to make the speculum-insertion bit go easier. One is a smaller speculum, and the other is asking if you can insert it yourself
- Wed Mar 24, 2021 7:58 am
- Forum: Relationships
- Topic: Platonic Intimacy: What does that look like for you?
- Replies: 5
- Views: 5672
Re: Platonic Intimacy: What does that look like for you?
I love partner dancing. In the beforetimes I would spend a few hours every Monday night dancing with people who became my community, and then my close friends. Tuning into another person to dance with them and enjoy the connection, creation and partnership that comes with it is a real joy. Right now...
- Sat Mar 20, 2021 5:49 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Worried about my willy
- Replies: 1
- Views: 6767
Re: Worried about my willy
Hi James14, Different people go through puberty at different paces, so nothing you're describing is particularly strange or wrong. We have more info on that here: Shown Actual Size: A Penis Shape & Size Lowdown As for sending pictures, no-one ever "owes" anyone pictures of themselves a...
Re: Worries
Hi Digdawg, It sounds like you're on the right track - and you're absolutely right both about sperm being fragile little things very few of which will ever make it even close to an egg, and thin condoms being just as effective as thick ones as the reduced friction counters the tiny reduction in stre...
- Sat Mar 20, 2021 4:40 am
- Forum: Sexual Health
- Topic: Pain and Light Bleeding After Sex
- Replies: 11
- Views: 8041
Re: Pain and Light Bleeding After Sex
Hi CatHaru, Absolutely, as a general rule there is no such thing as too much lube! Using liberally and often can make it more fun for both of you. From your description here, I'm not hearing a lot about your pleasure or desire. I wonder, when you decide "let's have sex", what's the motivat...
Re: advice
Hi Edhelraen,
I'm glad you managed to get an ultrasound and a clearer idea of what's been causing your periods to behave strangely! Afraid I have no experience of Duphaston myself, but I can see if anyone else around here does
I'm glad you managed to get an ultrasound and a clearer idea of what's been causing your periods to behave strangely! Afraid I have no experience of Duphaston myself, but I can see if anyone else around here does
- Wed Mar 17, 2021 5:16 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Am I too obsessed with my celebrity crush?
- Replies: 17
- Views: 11702
Re: Am I too obsessed with my celebrity crush?
Hi belled, Heather may have more to add when they get in, but I just wanted to add another voice saying that creating some independence sounds like a really good thing for you, and hopefully college will help you do that. Even simple things like switching some of those phonecalls for texts might hel...
- Wed Mar 17, 2021 4:46 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: I'm gay but I like straight porn
- Replies: 3
- Views: 2550
Re: I'm gay but I like straight porn
You know, you are the expert on your sexuality. You've said pretty clearly here that you are attracted to people of your gender and are a lesbian, and that's all anyone should need to believe you - no matter what kind of porn you enjoy or what you fantasise about.
- Wed Mar 17, 2021 4:43 am
- Forum: Sexual Health
- Topic: Masturbation and crisis about it
- Replies: 3
- Views: 5038
Re: Masturbation and crisis about it
Do you think that your family would judge you or react badly? Would you have somewhere to keep it and use it that was fairly private? For what it's worth, there is absolutely nothing wrong or shameful about wanting to explore and enjoy your body, or using sex toys to do that. In fact, I'd say it sou...
- Fri Feb 12, 2021 5:10 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Sexual identity, taboo, and literature
- Replies: 7
- Views: 3903
Re: Sexual identity, taboo, and literature
Hey BeepBoop, No need to apologise, the good thing about these message boards is that you can pause for a while and come back whenever suits you - we're always happy to pick up the thread. So we have a piece that is specifically about living with unsupportive family in the pandemic, but it also appl...
- Fri Feb 12, 2021 4:15 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Am I cumming or peeing?
- Replies: 19
- Views: 48794
Re: Am I cumming or peeing?
That's mostly down to you and your sexuality! If you are attracted to someone, feel good around them and excited to have sex with them, you're more likely to enjoy that sex. If you're having sex with someone because you feel like you have to or it's something you "should" want, then the ch...