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Hi CrimsonCat, The short answer is nope, you cannot desensitize or hurt yourself from masturbating frequently. With the showerhead, as long as you aren't directing a spray of water into your vagina, you can't hurt yourself by doing that. There is simply no data to support the idea that masturbating ...

Okay, so you'd like something a little more immediate than your psychiatrist (or would you feel comfortable asking if you two could talk sooner than planned)? Is something like a support group more what you'd like, or would you prefer something more like a one on one counselor (or something else ent...

When you say "this" can you clarify for me what you're referring to?

Right on I'd say now is the time to bust them out.

At the this point, is there anything else (within the scope of things we're able to do) that you'd like help with or to talk about?

It's totally normal to feel scared in a moment like this. And it's definitely normal to wish that answers would arrive faster than they are, or that you could go back in time. But all the worry in the world won't make those answers appear faster, and will just make you unhappy in the interim. All yo...

If protection wasn't used, then yes, there is some risk of STI transmission. However, as I said, you've taken the tests you can (and it sounds like plan to test for HIV when you can). So, in the interim it's best just to take care of yourself until you get more information via the results. I do want...

Ah, okay, I follow. I think it's good that you've figured out that the sleep thing is something you're still not comfortable with. If nothing else, it's something you can communicate to future partners so that they don't trigger that fear for you. At this point, you've taken the steps you can on the...

Hi sfed, Well, the way you describe your feelings certainly matches with the common definition of bisexuality. But, beyond that, you get to decide for yourself how you'd like to define your sexual orientation. So, if you feel that bi best describes your feelings? Then that's what you get to call you...

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Okay, sounds good. Let us know when you'd like the info to get you started.

Yep, it's still low risk no matter where you were in your cycle.

As Mo said, at this point you just have to wait until you can take a pregnancy test. Doing some self-care in the interim can help make the wait less stressful: Self-Care a La Carte Even if you were "looking for attention?" Not an excuse for someone to engage in sexual behavior with you wit...

Hi Peachy, I would try shopping around (or least reading up at) sites such as luckybloke, which can recommend condoms for different needs. Also, be aware that some companies will not label snugger condoms as such, so you may still need to experiment, with ones that say "large" or "med...

Hi gymmaniac, It's great that you've been tying to go slow and use lots of lube, as those are both good ways to keep intercourse from being painful. But it sounds like there may be something else up here and, sadly, we can't diagnose you through the internet. So it's definitely a sound plan to talk ...

Hi Kela,

Mo won't be back until later, but I'll leave a note that you've given us an update. Also, I want to give you giant kudos for taking the step of talking to your mom, and I'm glad that she reacted in a positive way to what you had to say

Mine started slightly before I hit puberty (maybe age 9 or 10). My mom left the "It's Perfectly Normal" and "It's not the Stork" lying around where she knew I would find them. So I read them and enjoyed them. Nothing in them was a total shock, since my parents were the type to us...

There isn't a relationship between heaviness of flow and delayed periods that we know of. If she's going more than two months between periods from time to time, plus having instances of prolonged bleeding, she might want to check in with a healthcare provider just to see if anything is causing that ...

If it looks like a period, feels like a period, and comes at the same time someone is expecting their period? Then it's probably a period.

Hi scaredandworried, First off, can yo help me understand what you found distressing about your ex falling asleep in your bed. Are you worried that he did something to you while you were asleep? I want to address your concerns about your morals. You get to have whatever standards for yourself that y...

Hi avi13,

We can't say for certain why your period arrived one day early, but having it come one day early, even if you're on BC pills, is nothing to worry about. It's not unusual for periods to vary in their arrival times.

Hi Scarletboy, There is no way for us to know why she is having cramps. It might be that these are a signal that her period is coming, or they might be a sign of something else. If they continue or get worse, and they're worrying her, it would be sound for her to see a doctor to figure out what's up...

Hi watermeloncraze, So, this type of sex always poses some risk, and the only way to know for certain if you're pregnant is to take a test. But if you've been using depo and withdrawl, your chances of pregnancy are incredibly, incredibly low (you can read about the effectiveness level here: The Budd...

Hi everyone, Sam here. 1) I first turned up on the message boards after becoming a volunteer. I found the site via tumblr, under someone's recommended resources. 2) I love talking to people about sex and all the stuff that surrounds it, so I love interacting with people on the boards. 3)Pineapple. A...

Kaizen, I totally do the puzzle game technique. I'll pair it with an audiobook or a podcast for extra soothing-ness. My techniques generally involve some kind of audio. Usually it's a podcast (like welcome to nightvale) or a video series that I find interesting that I'll put on while doing something...

When you're imagining the best-case scenario for how a relationship ( with romantic partners, friends, etc) will go, who do you look to as your model? Are they real people? Fictional characters? Something else? How has the way you imagined your ideal relationships changed as you've aged? I'll go fir...