I want to give you a shout-out for not checking on him! That I'm sorry news had to barge into your life instead. :| I know this is hard to accept emotionally, but you want to try to get your head around it logically: how good a match he and she are is not a referendum on your worth, personality, beh...

I want to stay in this relationship because I enjoy being with him. I don't feel he's manipulating me or trying to hurt me, and I enjoy the sexual things we do as much as he does. I do want to have that discussion about faith though, and of course we need to talk more about the living situation afte...

Another visit over. To update you on a good thing first, we did the reenactments and it was so much fun, both talking to each other like we just met and me getting to initiate things. I even worked in another thing that had bothered me: once back then he'd been laying on me and I'd been able to feel...

Since you mentioned it, I do want to bring in the friend's boyfriend, and whether he knows this would be going on. While you aren't responsible for someone else's commitment to their relationship, you get to decide whether you're personally comfortable being sexual with someone when they have a sign...

Have you specified what "slow" means? Even if you don't have an exact idea, I think it would help to put out there something definite you can point to, like, "I do not want to have intercourse until at least three months in; I will tell you if that changes. If you want to do something...

I could be speaking to my past self on this one (except my past self didn't have someone focused on emphasizing his penis size, bringing up past times he didn't get to have sex to complain about them, not taking responsibility for doing things after I'd said not to do them, and emphasizing a change ...

Writing. My journal is the best for this sort of thing. As I once wrote, "Paper won't laugh." Or, if I'm so mad that I can't even write fast enough to get it out of my system, I go somewhere private, turn on the audio recorder on my phone, and rant aloud. Then if I feel the need I play the...

Cleaning something where you can see it coming clean is definitely a great distraction! It's sometimes hard work, and you can feel like you're accomplishing something.

I'm not really sure what you mean by the "good girl act" or "becoming bad"... And how are you trying to "change your situation"? Getting "experience"? From what I've heard, doing sexual things with people just for the sake of "practice" or being able...

I feel the same way when I'm attracted to guys I don't know well. If I find myself craving anything physical with them, it's romantic/platonic rather than sexual. Mostly hugs. I'm always wanting more hugs. :D I've considered before whether I might be demi, but eventually I decided it really doesn't ...

So first I must tell you about the conversation last night because it was totally awesome: first we got to talking about liking to role play dominant and submissive stuff when we're together, I said I'd like to be on the dominant side more often and he said he'd like it too. Then he confessed the re...

I met my boyfriend when I was a freshman in college and he was a senior. I was actually dating another guy at the time, also long distance. He had been hospitalized for depression a couple weeks after we declared we were in a relationship, which was about a week after we met (this is going to includ...

Wow. I don't know if I can commit to doing that at any given time (beginning of the semester, I have a lot of personal stuff I'm working on, commitments to my house, etc.) but it's totally something I'm up for doing, if you think it would help.

Well, I'd probably mention the stuff you said, about liking wombats and thinking they're interesting. He'd probably say the stuff about liking antelope and the awesome reviews of the antelope documentary. I can't see it getting super heated or anything because after all it's just a movie. If I did g...

I agree, I'm definitely not trying to just ignore what people have said! (My mom says I'm not listening, but I'm trying to!) What my parents have said, generally, is that they don't think he respects me, and think that he looks down on me in terms of intelligence because of the differences in our fi...

I had just about settled down over everything (was back to talking about the future) when my roommate brought up some concerns last night. Actually, she brought them up as "stuff that bothered me until I got to know you", but did hint that some stuff still bothered her, so I asked what it ...

I suspected

Adding to that, a gift can be special without being huge or expensive! For example, my dad loves Hershey's kisses. For their first Christmas together, when they'd been dating for three months, my mom gave him a bag of them. Or is there some school/office supply you know he likes or uses a lot of? My...

My mom taught me to crochet (just single and double) when I was a lot younger. Last winter someone discovered the doll blanket I'd been working on, so I took it back to college with me and finished it. Then I bought a book of fancy stitches, planning (my mom's suggestion) to make squares of differen...

Whichever staff member created the You cannot become pregnant when you have pants on. page deserves a confetti shower and a large pile of their favorite candy.
Especially because it mentions unicorns and flying pigs.
And I keep giggling at the phrase "an utter lack of pants".

Somewhere on Captain Awkward's site someone had what I think is a pretty good analogy for labels (at least how I feel about them): it's like literal labels on a jar. You go to the store, you can find your favorite peanut butter by looking at the label. It helps you identify it. You can look at more ...

I haven't asked my parents for their whole opinion yet, but my mom has said I'm definitely still in the honeymoon stage, since I was acting like a "tour director", like I was the authority on everything. I can't deny that... I was going out of my way to be definite and tell him to do thing...

Quick reply to some of the things that stuck out to me (thanks for answering so much quick, it made me feel a lot better to wake up and find that!) I absolutely agree with your definition of listening to them! I was just unsure about their definition, in this case. I did ask them to look out for con...

This is sort of a placeholder, since I really have to go to bed, but I need to write this somewhere and I figure if I write it here that's a commitment to get back to it at a later date, with help. My boyfriend, long-distance, is coming to visit tomorrow. Tonight I had a long conversation with my pa...

And even if the woman in question does want to orgasm, well If most women can't orgasm from PiV without another form of stimulation, why wouldn't they just want the other stimulation without PiV? If most people wouldn't eat chocolate sauce without ice cream, then why would people put chocolate sauce...