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by Sam W
Mon May 06, 2024 7:24 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Potential pregnancy risks
Replies: 3
Views: 20

Re: Potential pregnancy risks

That's correct! If you think about the base of a condom, the ring there takes at least a little force to be able to stretch open, and pubic hair just can't apply that kind of force.
by Sam W
Mon May 06, 2024 7:19 am
Forum: Sexual Health
Topic: Condom slip with sex worker, HIV risk ?
Replies: 6
Views: 12136

Re: Condom slip with sex worker, HIV risk ?

Hi avocadomorning, I'm sorry that this situation is causing you so much stress. Since it's a similar situation to the one at the start of this post, does the advice Sofi or myself gave previously offer any help? Too, if it's an option, you could also ask the person you had sex with if she knows her ...
by Sam W
Mon May 06, 2024 6:58 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: What exactly constitutes attraction
Replies: 1
Views: 21

Re: What exactly constitutes attraction

Hi Laayiv,

I would say that the general understanding is closer to the first thing you said. That when someone is experiencing sexual attraction, they're noticing that seeing or being around a person is making them feel arousal. That may or may not include the desire to actually act on that arousal.
by Sam W
Mon May 06, 2024 6:45 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Potential pregnancy risks
Replies: 3
Views: 20

Re: Potential pregnancy risks

Hi nathhriviera, Nope, contact with pubic hair is not going to cause a tear in a condom. If it did pose that risk, that'd be a pretty big design flaw for something that comes into contact with pubic hair at every use. More than that, condoms are designed to hold up to quite a bit of friction and str...
by Sam W
Thu May 02, 2024 7:33 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Don't feel anything when masturbating
Replies: 3
Views: 247

Re: Don't feel anything when masturbating

Hi reidobviouslyy, When you compare what you see in the diagrams or photos of the external genitals against your own with a mirror, what does the region where the clitoris is look like? As Kier said , they can have the same variation in size and shape as the rest of our genitals, so what's likely ha...
by Sam W
Thu May 02, 2024 7:15 am
Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
Topic: beginner sexual stuff
Replies: 3
Views: 116

Re: beginner sexual stuff

Hi Ri, The boards are indeed publicly visible; that's why we note in the user agreement and elsewhere on the site that when folks are signing up here, it's best that they choose a username that's a pseudonym in some way. It does sound like the tears are likely coming from one or more of the things K...
by Sam W
Thu May 02, 2024 7:04 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: Questioning Sexuality
Replies: 1
Views: 74

Re: Questioning Sexuality

Hi AnneGG, It does sound like your sexual orientation is some form of queer, though the exact term to apply is up to you and how your feelings line up with the different orientations that are out there (or if you even want to use a term at all). How you choose to describe your own feelings is entire...
by Sam W
Thu May 02, 2024 6:53 am
Forum: Abuse & Assault
Topic: cosca + ocd
Replies: 1
Views: 74

Re: cosca + ocd

Hi angelsswings, From what you're describing, this fits with the kind of sexual experimentation and curiosity we know young children can and do engage in. I'm not hearing you describe any force or coercion, and it sounds like your motivation for this was curiosity rather than your own gratification....
by Sam W
Tue Apr 30, 2024 6:37 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Issues with sexual contact: anatomy? arousal?
Replies: 5
Views: 227

Re: Issues with sexual contact: anatomy? arousal?

You're very welcome, and I'm glad it was helpful!
by Sam W
Mon Apr 29, 2024 2:37 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Issues with sexual contact: anatomy? arousal?
Replies: 5
Views: 227

Re: Issues with sexual contact: anatomy? arousal?

You're welcome! So, what exactly happens at a sexual health exam depends a bit on why you've gone, and on the conversation you have with the healthcare provider once you're there. Usually they'll ask you some questions to help determine if you're sexually active, if you need STI testing, if you want...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 29, 2024 1:38 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: guy im my class
Replies: 5
Views: 200

Re: guy im my class

Okay! In that case, it often makes the most sense to invite the person to spend time with you, or with a group of your friends. You can pick something pretty casual and low stakes so that, and figure that if they're not interested, then you have your answer.
by Sam W
Mon Apr 29, 2024 1:34 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Issues with sexual contact: anatomy? arousal?
Replies: 5
Views: 227

Re: Issues with sexual contact: anatomy? arousal?

Hi WhatMightBe, So, given that there's a decent amount of variation in how the vaginal corona (that's the technical name for the hymen) looks, the fact you had what the doctor considered a "small" opening may not automatically be the cause of the issues you're having (I'm also a little ske...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 29, 2024 1:11 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: I’m a virgin and I have to take vaginal capsules!!!
Replies: 1
Views: 88

Re: I’m a virgin and I have to take vaginal capsules!!!

Hi 1&only, So, while this may not be the most comfortable thing in the world, this is one of those instances where things like finding a comfortable position can be really helpful. Looking up ones recommended for inserting tampons might be the way to go, since those are similar in size to a lot ...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 29, 2024 1:04 pm
Forum: Relationships
Topic: guy im my class
Replies: 5
Views: 200

Re: guy im my class

Hi Ms. Candy, When you think about getting to know this person and potentially dating him, do you feel like you'd prefer to take the route where you get to know him and maybe be his friend first and then reevaluate to see if you still want to date him? Or do you like the idea of just going straight ...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 29, 2024 7:51 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: Bottom gender dysphoria stuff - cum and pee
Replies: 13
Views: 39794

Re: Bottom gender dysphoria stuff - cum and pee

Hi anonym05, I'm glad to hear that the vibrator has been an overall enjoyable thing to add into masturbation! I will say that I'm not super surprised to hear that inserting it isn't as interesting as you hoped; the vaginal canal isn't all that sensitive, especially since past the first third of it. ...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 29, 2024 7:38 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Premature Orgasms?
Replies: 3
Views: 2316

Re: Premature Orgasms?

Hi Nat, There's not really one technique that's guaranteed to work, since our bodies will each respond to things a bit differently. One thing I will say is that if you have a penis, the average amount of time from the start of direct, genital stimulation to ejaculation is less than three minutes (th...
by Sam W
Mon Apr 29, 2024 7:15 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Clarification on Potential Risks and Types of Contact
Replies: 11
Views: 2142

Re: Clarification on Potential Risks and Types of Contact

Hi AlwaysLearning, I do want to correct what was written above a bit: ejaculation on a body that isn't the genitals is not going to pose a risk of pregnancy, period. Even if sperm managed to be washed down to the genitals (which would already be quite a feat), it's not going to survive the trip there.
by Sam W
Mon Apr 29, 2024 7:08 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: hate myself for being attracted to men
Replies: 3
Views: 1848

Re: hate myself for being attracted to men

Hi Lyle Lanley, If you've had traumatic experiences with men, or you've found that being physical with men in the past has left you feeling pretty crummy, then I can see why you feel like pursuing a relationship with men as a category isn't for you. Even though dating a specific man doesn't automati...
by Sam W
Fri Apr 26, 2024 1:04 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Relationship
Replies: 43
Views: 21098

Re: Relationship

What things do you wish were different?
by Sam W
Fri Apr 26, 2024 12:54 pm
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Relationship
Replies: 43
Views: 21098

Re: Relationship

I'm glad therapy is going well, and that you're realizing it's okay to have some help when you're struggling with various issues!

When you say you want to change how your partner is in your relationship, do you mean you want to change a particular dynamic between the two of you?
by Sam W
Fri Apr 26, 2024 8:52 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: Relationship
Replies: 43
Views: 21098

Re: Relationship

That sounds like a really hard combination of emotions to be struggling under. I do think this ultimately brings us back to you using therapy to address those big, negative feelings about yourself. Have your sessions been going okay?
by Sam W
Fri Apr 26, 2024 6:38 am
Forum: Ask Us!
Topic: My husband hates sex!
Replies: 2
Views: 1165

Re: My husband hates sex!

Hi Notshure21, In addition to what Latha said, I want to ask: what are the conversations and interactions like that lead you to having sex? Does he seem uninterested when you ask? If so, how do things go from one person being uninterested to two people having sex? Too, it may be helpful to know that...
by Sam W
Thu Apr 25, 2024 10:45 am
Forum: Sexual Identity
Topic: I’m probably heterosexual but…
Replies: 3
Views: 1414

Re: I’m probably heterosexual but…

Hi PomPom, Would it be helpful to focus on whether or not you want to try out this relationship if it goes in a dating direction, rather than on what this all does, or does not, mean about your sexual orientation? After all, the language we use around orientation is meant to describe our feelings an...
by Sam W
Thu Apr 25, 2024 9:18 am
Forum: Sex & Sexuality
Topic: How to practice sex positivity
Replies: 5
Views: 1280

Re: How to practice sex positivity

So, a lot of sex-negative thinking comes from "I think this is gross/weird/etc, which means it is objectively bad." But the reality is, the majority of the time, what that reaction is telling us is that a given sexual thing isn't something we want for ourselves. So it's important to separa...