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- Sat May 11, 2024 10:21 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: I can’t feel sensitive touching my own skin
- Replies: 7
- Views: 357
Re: I can’t feel sensitive touching my own skin
Hi Azulin, You know, from the sound of it, it seems like masturbation is enjoyable for you even if how your body responds to touch during it is a bit different than you expected it to be. If so, my suggestion would be just to accept that that's how your body reacts, rather than trying to troubleshoo...
- Sat May 11, 2024 10:16 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Was I sexually assaulted?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 54
Re: Was I sexually assaulted?
Hi blckholesun89, I want to start by saying that, ultimately, you get to be the boss of how you refer to what happened, or to yourself. We're each the expert on our own experiences and our feelings about those experiences, and that includes whether or not we feel ready or comfortable calling them by...
- Sat May 11, 2024 9:06 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Double vaginal penetration
- Replies: 3
- Views: 75
Re: Double vaginal penetration
Hi GenuineL, So, the thing to keep in mind with those comments you're hearing from guys is that they're not based in any real understanding of how the vaginal canal actually works . It's a muscle, when we put something inside of it, it constricts to hold what is inside of it. When we remove whatever...
- Fri May 10, 2024 7:29 am
- Forum: Abuse & Assault
- Topic: Did it count?
- Replies: 6
- Views: 277
Re: Did it count?
Hi Stone, I'm glad we were able to offer you support, and that you still feel safe overall in your community! One thing I do want to say is that, unfortunately,I think there's a good chance this will be a repeat behavior from him. I say that for a few reasons. One is that he already seems to have a ...
Re: okra
I want to add that, for future reference, this is a really good overview of what does, and does not, interfere with hormonal birth control: Something You Can Worry About Less: Interference and Hormonal Birth Control (you'll notice Okra is not included on that list).
- Thu May 09, 2024 7:59 am
- Forum: Abuse & Assault
- Topic: Did it count?
- Replies: 6
- Views: 277
Re: Did it count?
Hi Stone, In addition to what Caitlineve said, I want to suggest that going forward, this is someone you want to avoid sharing a space with where you and he are alone or where there isn't adult supervision. He seems to use those situations as places where he tries to manipulate or otherwise get peop...
Re: break up
That's a really, really common way to feel after a break-up (or, honestly, after any big life change that leaves us feeling sad or upset). But, as cliche as it is, there's a lot of truth in the idea that time goes a long way towards these things hurting less; it may not happen as fast as we'd like, ...
Re: break up
Hi naurmi, I'm sorry, break-ups are seldom easy, even if they were mutually agreed on and ultimately for the best. And if you've been dating someone awhile, it can be really, really disorienting to have them no longer be a part of your life. If you haven't already read it, I really like this piece o...
- Tue May 07, 2024 7:03 am
- Forum: Abuse & Assault
- Topic: cosca + ocd
- Replies: 3
- Views: 198
Re: cosca + ocd
Okay! Here are a few different starting places. Some of them are more resource round-ups with suggestions of workbooks and similar you could look into using, and some are collections of different exercises and techniques to help you address OCD thought patterns: https://www.anxietycanada.com/sites/d...
- Mon May 06, 2024 1:02 pm
- Forum: Scarleteen Updates
- Topic: I want to have sex with my boyfriend but I can't enjoy it
- Replies: 0
- Views: 155
I want to have sex with my boyfriend but I can't enjoy it
Shiny new advice from Heather! I want to have sex with my boyfriend but I can't enjoy it
- Mon May 06, 2024 9:05 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Chances of pregnancy
- Replies: 6
- Views: 215
Re: Chances of pregnancy
Yes, as I said in my initial answer, as long as there is at least one layer of clothing present, pregnancy cannot occur. As you may have noticed in other posts, the reason we don't want to go in circles with users when talking about pregnancy risk is that offering that reassurance over and over agai...
- Mon May 06, 2024 8:33 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Chances of pregnancy
- Replies: 6
- Views: 215
Re: Chances of pregnancy
Got it, thank you for clarifying. And no, there is no chance of pregnancy from this. It may help to read more about what IS needed for pregnancy to occur: Human Reproduction: A Seafarer's Guide . If you two are still feeling nervous about this, your next step would be to go through this guide we wro...
- Mon May 06, 2024 8:23 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Chances of pregnancy
- Replies: 6
- Views: 215
Re: Chances of pregnancy
Hi Kanu, As long as there is at least one layer of clothing between genitals, pregnancy cannot occur. So, there was no risk in this instance. Too, ejaculation is generally something we can feel and see, so you would have known if you ejaculated onto her underwear (that would not change the risk, but...
- Mon May 06, 2024 7:35 am
- Forum: Sexual Health
- Topic: I need help?
- Replies: 4
- Views: 107
Re: I need help?
Hi CasWasHere, Ooof, if you've been having a run of health issues, I can see why noticing something unfamiliar going on with your breast would lead you straight to "great, something else is going wrong!" Since it's gone away and you're not noticing other symptoms, I agree that it's unlikel...
- Mon May 06, 2024 7:24 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Potential pregnancy risks
- Replies: 3
- Views: 134
Re: Potential pregnancy risks
That's correct! If you think about the base of a condom, the ring there takes at least a little force to be able to stretch open, and pubic hair just can't apply that kind of force.
- Mon May 06, 2024 7:19 am
- Forum: Sexual Health
- Topic: Condom slip with sex worker, HIV risk ?
- Replies: 8
- Views: 12450
Re: Condom slip with sex worker, HIV risk ?
Hi avocadomorning, I'm sorry that this situation is causing you so much stress. Since it's a similar situation to the one at the start of this post, does the advice Sofi or myself gave previously offer any help? Too, if it's an option, you could also ask the person you had sex with if she knows her ...
- Mon May 06, 2024 6:58 am
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: What exactly constitutes attraction
- Replies: 1
- Views: 104
Re: What exactly constitutes attraction
Hi Laayiv,
I would say that the general understanding is closer to the first thing you said. That when someone is experiencing sexual attraction, they're noticing that seeing or being around a person is making them feel arousal. That may or may not include the desire to actually act on that arousal.
I would say that the general understanding is closer to the first thing you said. That when someone is experiencing sexual attraction, they're noticing that seeing or being around a person is making them feel arousal. That may or may not include the desire to actually act on that arousal.
- Mon May 06, 2024 6:45 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Potential pregnancy risks
- Replies: 3
- Views: 134
Re: Potential pregnancy risks
Hi nathhriviera, Nope, contact with pubic hair is not going to cause a tear in a condom. If it did pose that risk, that'd be a pretty big design flaw for something that comes into contact with pubic hair at every use. More than that, condoms are designed to hold up to quite a bit of friction and str...
- Fri May 03, 2024 6:40 am
- Forum: Scarleteen Updates
- Topic: Fat Bodies: Learning to Care for Your Rolls and Folds
- Replies: 0
- Views: 119
Fat Bodies: Learning to Care for Your Rolls and Folds
A new, wonderful piece by guest writer Sarah Biette: Fat Bodies: Learning to Care for Your Rolls and Folds
- Thu May 02, 2024 7:33 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Don't feel anything when masturbating
- Replies: 3
- Views: 411
Re: Don't feel anything when masturbating
Hi reidobviouslyy, When you compare what you see in the diagrams or photos of the external genitals against your own with a mirror, what does the region where the clitoris is look like? As Kier said , they can have the same variation in size and shape as the rest of our genitals, so what's likely ha...
- Thu May 02, 2024 7:15 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: beginner sexual stuff
- Replies: 3
- Views: 160
Re: beginner sexual stuff
Hi Ri, The boards are indeed publicly visible; that's why we note in the user agreement and elsewhere on the site that when folks are signing up here, it's best that they choose a username that's a pseudonym in some way. It does sound like the tears are likely coming from one or more of the things K...
- Thu May 02, 2024 7:04 am
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: Questioning Sexuality
- Replies: 1
- Views: 113
Re: Questioning Sexuality
Hi AnneGG, It does sound like your sexual orientation is some form of queer, though the exact term to apply is up to you and how your feelings line up with the different orientations that are out there (or if you even want to use a term at all). How you choose to describe your own feelings is entire...
- Thu May 02, 2024 6:53 am
- Forum: Abuse & Assault
- Topic: cosca + ocd
- Replies: 3
- Views: 198
Re: cosca + ocd
Hi angelsswings, From what you're describing, this fits with the kind of sexual experimentation and curiosity we know young children can and do engage in. I'm not hearing you describe any force or coercion, and it sounds like your motivation for this was curiosity rather than your own gratification....
- Tue Apr 30, 2024 6:37 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Issues with sexual contact: anatomy? arousal?
- Replies: 5
- Views: 261
Re: Issues with sexual contact: anatomy? arousal?
You're very welcome, and I'm glad it was helpful!
- Mon Apr 29, 2024 2:37 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Issues with sexual contact: anatomy? arousal?
- Replies: 5
- Views: 261
Re: Issues with sexual contact: anatomy? arousal?
You're welcome! So, what exactly happens at a sexual health exam depends a bit on why you've gone, and on the conversation you have with the healthcare provider once you're there. Usually they'll ask you some questions to help determine if you're sexually active, if you need STI testing, if you want...