I'm sorry that it hurts, big decisions like breaks or breakups usually do. It sounds like you've come to this point out of a long period of trying to work through this in all sorts of other ways that were also hurting and taking a step back to each focus on your own needs for a bit is a good, brave ...

You're going bivvying! I love bivvying :D it's my favourite kind of camping. Ok, so no-tent answer is Jacob is pretty much spot on. Rocks, trees, walking 30m away and the other person turning their back are all good privacy options, and it may feel weird to not have a door and a lock but it helps to...

hi sonatine, From what your describing it's hard to answer your question! Not all orgasms feel the same; a super strong good feeling that then goes away could be an orgasm, although part of how we describe orgasms is about a release of tension. A feeling of being suddenly done can help us identify o...

gabgab, I am locking this post because I see that you are trying to ask the same question again as you did in your last post, and that goes against our policy. We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or ha...

Hi Tommy, What kind of camping trip are you going on? Are you going out into the wilderness, or to a designated camp site with facilities? If you are going somewhere with facilities, then usually those include shower blocks with individual showers cubicles so it's not too different to at home. If yo...

Glad that you found those helpful! Totally get how much of a total social turn-off if can be when someone tries to rush you, which is a nice thing about events; you can plan them into your day. I don't think that most bars and clubs are too much fun alone (although I do sometimes take my book to a c...

Are you able to see a healthcare provider about your probable UTI? If possible, that's probably your first step. Also, usually it's best to take a break from sexual activity while you're waiting for it to clear up. As Heather mentioned above, bleeding is not something that always has to happen the f...

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Hi Atonement :) Heather and Sam are full of wisdom so I'm not gonna cross-talk them on your wider questions, I just wanted to jump in on the subject of meeting people whilst travelling since I've done it quite a bit. If you don't want to specifically try dating apps then have you looked at something...

Hi fynnrye I'm glad you've found the conversation here helpful. Did you have anything else you wanted to ask or talk about further?

Hey Lemon :) Glad you've found this conversation helpful! I think that if your boyfriend is open to seeking a therapist it may be helpful. A sex therapist may be able to help with this element specifically, but if he wants help with opening up and communication more generally (which would almost cer...

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I've been on two different methods and both times they've been something I explicitly asked my doctor for. When I first started needing contraception, somewhere I got a booklet on the different methods and I tried to have a conversation with my then-partner about the different options since I felt t...

Hi WayOfMJ3, Welcome to the boards :) I'm sorry to hear that things are difficult within your relationship. Conflict resolution is a skill that takes time and patience to learn, and even then sometimes we realise that the underlying issue is too big or fundamental to sustain a relationship. Do you f...

Hi again, You know what? I think you're already making a great start on those things you're trying to figure out. It can be difficult to work out how to be our happy, whole selves after a damaging relationship, but it sounds like you've identified some problems and have some sound goals and that's g...

Hi Ramblinggirl I'm so sorry that you went through this. I hope you know that it is not your fault. Violence and threats are not the only way that people might make us do something we don't want to do. Not listening, or asking again and again to get a different answer, or trying to persuade us are m...

Hi Yann, Take a look at this article: You're Not Pregnant. Why Do You think You Are? In here it says "You're NOT pregnant nor going to become so if you only did, or were part of, one or more of the following things...Manual sex (fingering or handjobs, and yes, this accounts for someone maybe or...

Hi mooneyes, I'm glad you have been to see a practitioner already about this, and really healthcare providers are the best people to answer this kind of question. If you haven't already both had a full STI screening we always recommend regular checkups so this seems like a good opportunity. If they ...

Hi ocdelevated,

Sperm are actually pretty fragile, so what you're describing isn't a risk we would be concerned about. Check out this article for more info on what sperm cells need to survive: Who's Afraid of Sperm Cells?

Are you getting support for your OCD?

Hi Maugin, I'm going to be honest with you; I don't have any yes/no answers for you here. So I'm going to do my best, and see if any of our other awesome vols have some more wisdom to share. For your question, let's first talk about being a good ally. An ally is someone who may not be LGBTQ+ but act...

Hi OhHeckDatGurl :) I'm so happy that this site helped you! And it's awesome that you have found something that you're passionate about and want to pursue. I'm going to leave a note for some of our super-experienced US-based folks to give you some more specific info, but here are some pointers from ...

Hi Spiderman23, Whilst a lot of different factors can cause delayed or absent periods, sex isn't generally one of them. It's not unusual for high arousal, orgasm and the uterine contractions that come with them to mean you see the flow a little earlier than you might normally expect. That doesn't me...

Hi Princess26, I just wanted to expand a little on what Boxers&socks said. The buddy system of birth control is a good suggestion, and we have more info on that here: The Buddy System: Effectiveness Rates for Backing Up Your Birth Control With a Second Method . Don't forget that there are lots o...

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Great! Let us know how that conversation goes :) With your extended family, do you think there is a reason why your parents might have said that? For example, are they worried about how other members of your family would treat you if you came out to them? For most people, coming out isn't a thing th...