I forgot to share the link with you that I meant to! I think a read through this will give you a lot of information and support around this: The Rainbow Connection: Orientation for Everyone.

Hey there, PomPom. So, there are WAY more orientations and sexual identities than just heterosexual or homosexual, and some others do describe the attractions you are feeling more accurately. For starters, both homosexual and heterosexual people are not always (and I would say rarely, when people ar...

I also just want to put in a reminder here that sex work is real work, and the chosen work of many real people. I'm not sure what you mean when you say that you find the fact that there are prostitutes disappointing, but when you talk about sex workers here, please try and do so in the respectful wa...

Even if it IS selfish, we all not only get to think of and center ourselves in these choices, we 1000% should, if we're going to make them responsibly. No one owes the word children, no one owes the world their body in this regard, and there is no one right thing to do, especially where the actual p...

You don't need to be sorry about it! But I have seen a pattern of you kind of trying to figure out or manage sexual partners or partnerships that don't yet exist, and I gotta tell you, that's just not a sound use of your time or energy. I'd also say it might even make it so that when you do connect ...

I can't tell you what to care about or not in this or any respect, honestly. I can think of a bunch of different reasons people might care about or be invested in (or not) this or any aspect of porn, but all of those cares, or the lack of them, are very personal. I do think that it sounds like you'r...

If I understand which question (I'm only really seeing one) this is about, no one is going to be able to tell you how much of the sounds you hear people making in all pornography -- that's an awfully big and very diverse pool that also spans at least centuries! -- are faked, aren't faked, or are rea...

Lyle, what you are describing to me does sound just like a septate hymen, and I'm betting that's what it is: that's hymenal tissue wearing away in such a way that more than one opening formed and is widening. That's one of several typical variations with hymens, and you'll find it in the link Sam sh...

Just a reminder that we have content that answers questions like this very easily! You'll find it here, for starters: https://www.scarleteen.com/read/can-i-g ... r-pass-sti

Hey again. I was going to say that what Sam said right up there -- before you posted it -- resonated with me, too. I don't think any of these choices seem to involve NOT standing up for yourself. After all, this whole set of choices is about you and centering your own needs and goals and feelings. A...

Hey there, E_F. We've talked before, and while I'm not glad this is the reason you're here, I'm glad to see you back. I'm wondering: do you think it's worth exploring other avenues that could help you attend college? I'm not sure how wealthy your family or school district is, but if the answer isn't...

I do want to add a thing! Group sex is going to vary just as much -- if not more so -- as sex with any one given partner is. I say even more so because more people partnered with more people = exponentially more possible variation. So, in a lot of ways, asking someone what their group sex experience...

Hi there, Ayn. I have been out this week with illness, but in checking in, I have noticed your thread and wanted to pop in today on it. I'm the person Willa was offering up for you to talk with in chat if you want. I'm in and from Chicago, I was unhoused on and off here in my teens and some of my tw...

Absolutely. It just may be that it takes you some time to accept them. It might help to recognize that these feelings can't just be boiled down to hormones. Sure, a handful of different neurochemicals (things like dopamine and testosterone) are often part of sexual desires or arousal, but that's jus...

Hey there. You haven't said specifically what this certain way is that you feel, but from the sounds of things, I'm guessing you're asking about feelings of arousal or sexual desire? If so, you're right: those feelings do tend to be a kind that will just come and go without us having to make any eff...

It's all good!

Hey, FullofQuestions. before anything else, I just want to drop a gentle reminder that girl-girl porn, a thing made for entertainment and profit (and also mostly for cishet men), and lesbians -- real, whole people -- and lesbian sex -- sex lesbians are having between each other, not for someone else...

Hi there.

Chances are good that if you didn't urinate before masturbation, it's just because once we start engaging the muscles of that area, it tends to also stimulate the bladder and thus, often will create a need to pee.

Phoenix:

I mostly just wanted to pop in and express my shared joy with Sam at seeing you and hearing that you're doing well. I also wanted to add that Phoenix is also the chosen name of one of my favorite friends, who is a marvelous person, so you're in good company!

Gotcha. For sure, I would say erotic dreams often are a place where people feel more relaxed and freer sexually than in waking hours, or when sexuality is more tethered to real-life experiences and relationships. This might also be a helpful clue for you: perhaps masturbation that you connect more t...

I'm glad that you were able to talk about that and that your needs have felt more met lately when it's come to communication with her. You know, since it sounds like she doesn't entirely know why she responded, I don't think that you or I are going to be able to figure it out. But she did offer up t...

So, maybe we are having another language issue, but a wet dream is a very specific thing that only happens to people with penises. It’s an involuntary ejaculation of semen very specifically from the testes and penis.

So, a sexologist is someone who studies human sexuality. Maybe you mean a sex therapist? If so, I don’t see anything so far they seem likely to be able to help you with, particularly if depression is at the root of your limited ability to experience pleasure and that depression isn’t yet treated. Th...

Might you be able to seek out a new mental healthcare provider, with the aim of addressing your depression, and the understanding that that will require more than just a couple appointments?

Hi there, yakov. Welcome to the boards. It sounds to me like the talks you have had with your partner haven't really left you feeling resolved, both about the way she is engaging with previous sexual partners, but even more about how you don't feel like she's connecting with you in the way that you ...