Hi Itsmebabyyy, and welcome to the boards! I hear you that it can be really frustrating when you want to experience orgasm for the first time and it hasn’t happened yet. You are certainly not alone in this either, and I definitely understand the frustration. There’s a few things I can recommend! So,...

Hey Archer, I’m so sorry to hear this. Nobody deserves to be in an abusive home, especially with people who are supposed to be taking care of us. I also hear you that being in a home where you don’t feel safe can make it really difficult to experience pleasure or even just get care and support, and ...

Hey there Jax-in-the-box, I’m really sorry to hear about these circumstances. But I’m glad you’re here to help your friend — supportive community is incredibly important. In this case, does your friend have an adult in his life that he could trust with this information? If he feels like he may want ...

Hi Archer, and welcome to the boards! :) I’m sorry to hear that this has been a frustrating aspect of exploring masturbation, but I want to reassure you that you are absolutely not alone in this experience. It makes me frustrated because other women do. I hear you that, especially when we see other ...

Hi Ellieww, and welcome to the boards! Masturbating in public is never recommended because it violates the consent of those around you. During any sexual act, you need the enthusiastic consent of all people involved. Masturbating in public (such as in school) violates this consent because the people...

Hi Brian,

I’m really glad to hear that! Too, if it helps for the future, we have a resource here that goes through all different sexual activities and the associated risks.

Can I Get Pregnant, or Get or Pass On an STI From That?

Hi AQ! No problem at all, I’m glad we can help! I’ll let Heather respond to their part when they’re in next too. :) The question of “what am I seeking by telling them this” can be more of an organizing question for yourself if you find it helpful, but it’s definitely not mandatory. I think it can be...

Hi there Ramiroflores, and welcome to the boards! A negative pregnancy test, taken in line with the test directions, lets you know that you’re not pregnant. So, right now, there is no pregnancy to manage. However, I hear you that you still feel worried. We have a great resource here for situations j...

Hi there Brian, As Sam said, there is no risk of pregnancy here. We can’t speculate on what would happen “despite the odds,” and I do think that sort of speculation is an anxiety-inducing process and not productive when we can look clearly at the facts: indirect contact with pre-cum does not pose a ...

Hi AQ, Absolutely! So, I hear you when some friend groups maybe just don’t hug that much — my friend group in high school was not so huggy, and looking back, I think maybe we just didn’t have a way of normalizing hugging, if that makes sense (we didn’t really hug our parents either, interestingly.) ...

Hi Jay27, Sometimes, within LGBTQ+ organizations at certain colleges, they may have specific lesbian-centered events as part of their programming (or if they don’t, maybe they could start some!) — does it sound doable to look into those organizations and see if they have some more sapphic-centered s...

Hi there AQ, and welcome back :) I’m so glad to hear the good news, this is a really exciting development! I also hear you about missing them between dates, especially with missing a physical component. I know this may sound a bit simplified or obvious, but being your own source of enjoyable physica...

Hi Jay27! There’s some location-specific lesbian sober meetup groups on social media platforms like Instagram and Facebook if you feel comfortable with that! Also, speaking from personal experience, I’ve noticed a lot of success with finding lesbian sober community in different cities in the US by j...

Also, I definitely hear you about feeling like you need to figure things out before experimenting — but if I can reassure you, there’s nothing wrong with pursuing intimacy with people while you figure out yourself — as long as you have a clear sense of your boundaries, expectations, and desires, and...

Hi Trixieandtoast, I hear you that these conversations with him have started to feel frustrating, and I know that can be a hard thing to feel too — especially when we just want to figure out what’s going on. However, because you’re in a living situation with this person , if a potential conversation...

Hey there CasWasHere, While we cannot recommend any sex toy stores to minors as they are adult sites, we can definitely talk about how to go forward here with finding toys in a way that’s discreet given your guardian’s thoughts about things like intimacy and romance. First, if you do end up making a...

Ah, I definitely hear you that it can be hard to relax while masturbating when it’s hard to find privacy at home! I was just about to say, making sure you’re relaxed and aroused before masturbating can go a long way to make masturbating more pleasurable, but that can definitely be hard to do when yo...

Hi there Azulin, So, there is a certain familiarity we have with our own bodies, where when we touch ourselves, we’re expecting it, so it registers in our brain as non-surprising. Touches that come from someone else, especially on accident or when we’re not expecting it, can be a bit more surprising...

Hi Trixieandtoast! First, I want to reassure you that there’s no “best timeline” for working through communicating with your friends or potential partners. Communicating with other people is one of those tricky things where, because you can’t control what other people say, it often takes the form of...

Hi there Naurmi008, I hear you here, it can feel almost impossible to be alone sometimes after a breakup. It definitely helps to surround yourself with loving community now, but as Sam and you said, sometimes we have to be alone and sit with what we’re feeling, and cry or just feel sad! And that can...

Hi Trixieandtoast, and welcome to the boards! I’m sorry to hear that you haven’t had your gender affirmed during intimacy — this can feel really disheartening as one goes through a transition, or even figures out one’s identity, so I hear you that this is a sensitive feeling. Indeed, gender identity...

Hi Axolotlperson! I hear you when you say your gender has always felt kind of back-and-forth, but I want to reassure you that feeling changes in how you feel about your gender identity is a normal process, and indeed, gender identity is often something that expands, evolves, and can change over time...

Hi there Shoelaces99, No need to apologize :) I appreciate your zest for figuring out what’s going on, and I hear you that these things can be confusing and overwhelming sometimes! Too, it’s totally okay to experience big emotions while you’re getting to know your sexual anatomy. All that to say, no...

Hi there Axolotlperson, I’m sorry to hear that your g-spot is feeling different than it used to — I know it can be really frustrating when things don’t feel the way they did before, especially when it felt so good! So, there’s a few reasons why this can happen, but I first want to reassure you that ...

Yes, you are correct. Since, in this case, there was no contact with ejaculate and the vulva or vagina, there’s no risk of pregnancy. Hope this helps!