Ah, I definitely hear you that it can be hard to relax while masturbating when it’s hard to find privacy at home! I was just about to say, making sure you’re relaxed and aroused before masturbating can go a long way to make masturbating more pleasurable, but that can definitely be hard to do when yo...

Hi there Azulin, So, there is a certain familiarity we have with our own bodies, where when we touch ourselves, we’re expecting it, so it registers in our brain as non-surprising. Touches that come from someone else, especially on accident or when we’re not expecting it, can be a bit more surprising...

Hi Trixieandtoast! First, I want to reassure you that there’s no “best timeline” for working through communicating with your friends or potential partners. Communicating with other people is one of those tricky things where, because you can’t control what other people say, it often takes the form of...

Hi there Naurmi008, I hear you here, it can feel almost impossible to be alone sometimes after a breakup. It definitely helps to surround yourself with loving community now, but as Sam and you said, sometimes we have to be alone and sit with what we’re feeling, and cry or just feel sad! And that can...

Hi Trixieandtoast, and welcome to the boards! I’m sorry to hear that you haven’t had your gender affirmed during intimacy — this can feel really disheartening as one goes through a transition, or even figures out one’s identity, so I hear you that this is a sensitive feeling. Indeed, gender identity...

Hi Axolotlperson! I hear you when you say your gender has always felt kind of back-and-forth, but I want to reassure you that feeling changes in how you feel about your gender identity is a normal process, and indeed, gender identity is often something that expands, evolves, and can change over time...

Hi there Shoelaces99, No need to apologize :) I appreciate your zest for figuring out what’s going on, and I hear you that these things can be confusing and overwhelming sometimes! Too, it’s totally okay to experience big emotions while you’re getting to know your sexual anatomy. All that to say, no...

Hi there Axolotlperson, I’m sorry to hear that your g-spot is feeling different than it used to — I know it can be really frustrating when things don’t feel the way they did before, especially when it felt so good! So, there’s a few reasons why this can happen, but I first want to reassure you that ...

Yes, you are correct. Since, in this case, there was no contact with ejaculate and the vulva or vagina, there’s no risk of pregnancy. Hope this helps!

Hi there Reidobviouslyy, and welcome to the boards! I’m sorry to hear that you’re not feeling much during masturbation — this can be frustrating to experience but I do have a few things I can recommend. When you say you can’t find your clitoris, have you tried to find it with your fingers only, or h...

Hi AlwaysLearning, We’re glad we can help! You are correct that there is no risk to pregnancy here, as you did not ejaculate onto her genitals. I hear your concern about semen that may have washed downward, but as Sam said, even if it did manage to wash down there, this would be indirect contact at ...

Hi there Ri, and welcome to the boards :) I’m glad to hear that you feel comfortable with your boyfriend, especially when experiencing new sensations and reactions! Tears falling during sexual activity is something that can happen for many different reasons, and you are definitely not alone here. So...

Hi there Mayreilly, and welcome to the boards! What you are describing sounds like pre-ejaculate, or some mixture of pre-ejaculate and the lubricate in the condom (if you were using a lubricated condom). As you said the condom didn’t break, you can assume that the pre-ejaculate was contained within ...

Hi Brendie, Plan B is most effective if taken within the first 24 hours, so if she took Plan B within one hour, that would be within that window of effectiveness. That being said, it’s always a good idea to take a pregnancy test two or so weeks after taking Plan B, especially if she hasn’t gotten a ...

Hi there MistahCFS, No worries at all! If I’m understanding you correctly, you’re right, when it comes to sexual media like porn, I think it’s less productive to worry about the legitimacy of the noises you hear, and perhaps more helpful to just hold an appreciation for the fact that porn is media, ...

Hi there PomPom! I think something important to mention here is that having a “set” orientation is not a requirement to move through this world. In other words, you don’t need to put words to how you feel or identify unless you want to, or those words feel right to you. Too, there are an infinite am...

Hi MizdaCFS, In terms of how common it is for moaning and dirty talk to be faked in porn, I would say that insofar as porn is scripted, directed, and edited, you can bet that a lot of the moaning and dirty talk is not real, or maybe exaggerated if it is real. You can read more about it here too: htt...

Hi there Felismisc, Medical diagrams can be helpful for identifying general anatomical structures, but they tend to generalize some of the variations in appearance that you can see from person to person. For example, some people may have a larger inner labia and thus may not look as “smooth” or symm...

That song is so awesome for this! I really appreciate when they sing “I don’t need everything from you”: this is such a good reminder in sex ed that our community is exactly that — a community of many people in many places — and not one person can do or be ~everything~ for us … and that’s okay! Than...

I’m glad I could help! You’re right, the sperm cells that could be present in pre-ejaculate really wouldn’t survive past being on your hand, drying a bit, then being wiped up. I hear you that a change in cycle length can be anxiety-inducing, but in fact “regular” menstrual cycles can often deviate b...

Hi there Ash51, No need to apologize! So, it sounds like there is no risk of pregnancy here. Even if there was pre-ejaculate on your hands, that would be indirect contact with pre-ejaculate, which doesn’t pose a risk to pregnancy. Pre-ejaculate can contain sperm (not always), but those sperm cells a...

Hi there Anne Janne, So, as long as there was no direct contact with ejaculate and your vulva or vagina, as in, your partner did not ejaculate onto your genitals, there is no risk of pregnancy. If it helps, though, sometimes taking a pregnancy test and actually seeing the result can help quell some ...

I’m glad I could help! Finding a therapist who you can talk to about these things sounds like a good step forward — I hear you that it can be hard to bring up things we feel shame or anxiety about, and sometimes it takes the right person or the right specialty… even the right time. Too, if it helps,...

Hi there Jrjamwswright74, As a gentle reminder, we ask that users not make multiple posts to encourage a quicker response. In this case, as Sam said, you can assume that the condom did its job to protect you from STIs. Too, if anxiety around things like STI transmission continues to pose a concern, ...

Hi there Koh123, I’m glad to hear that you’ve checked in with your healthcare providers about your family history and current symptoms — they would be a good place to start if and when you do want to seek mental healthcare. Too, we can help you start the process of finding a mental healthcare provid...