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- Fri May 10, 2024 8:56 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Attracted to my gay friend as a transmasc
- Replies: 18
- Views: 465
Re: Attracted to my gay friend as a transmasc
Also, I definitely hear you about feeling like you need to figure things out before experimenting — but if I can reassure you, there’s nothing wrong with pursuing intimacy with people while you figure out yourself — as long as you have a clear sense of your boundaries, expectations, and desires, and...
- Fri May 10, 2024 8:49 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Attracted to my gay friend as a transmasc
- Replies: 18
- Views: 465
Re: Attracted to my gay friend as a transmasc
Hi Trixieandtoast, I hear you that these conversations with him have started to feel frustrating, and I know that can be a hard thing to feel too — especially when we just want to figure out what’s going on. However, because you’re in a living situation with this person , if a potential conversation...
- Fri May 10, 2024 6:26 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Safely Accessing a Sex Toy as a Minor
- Replies: 5
- Views: 337
Re: Safely Accessing a Sex Toy as a Minor
Hey there CasWasHere, While we cannot recommend any sex toy stores to minors as they are adult sites, we can definitely talk about how to go forward here with finding toys in a way that’s discreet given your guardian’s thoughts about things like intimacy and romance. First, if you do end up making a...
- Thu May 09, 2024 8:25 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: I can’t feel sensitive touching my own skin
- Replies: 7
- Views: 356
Re: I can’t feel sensitive touching my own skin
Ah, I definitely hear you that it can be hard to relax while masturbating when it’s hard to find privacy at home! I was just about to say, making sure you’re relaxed and aroused before masturbating can go a long way to make masturbating more pleasurable, but that can definitely be hard to do when yo...
- Thu May 09, 2024 7:10 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: I can’t feel sensitive touching my own skin
- Replies: 7
- Views: 356
Re: I can’t feel sensitive touching my own skin
Hi there Azulin, So, there is a certain familiarity we have with our own bodies, where when we touch ourselves, we’re expecting it, so it registers in our brain as non-surprising. Touches that come from someone else, especially on accident or when we’re not expecting it, can be a bit more surprising...
- Thu May 09, 2024 6:50 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Attracted to my gay friend as a transmasc
- Replies: 18
- Views: 465
Re: Attracted to my gay friend as a transmasc
Hi Trixieandtoast! First, I want to reassure you that there’s no “best timeline” for working through communicating with your friends or potential partners. Communicating with other people is one of those tricky things where, because you can’t control what other people say, it often takes the form of...
Re: break up
Hi there Naurmi008, I hear you here, it can feel almost impossible to be alone sometimes after a breakup. It definitely helps to surround yourself with loving community now, but as Sam and you said, sometimes we have to be alone and sit with what we’re feeling, and cry or just feel sad! And that can...
- Wed May 08, 2024 7:12 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Attracted to my gay friend as a transmasc
- Replies: 18
- Views: 465
Re: Attracted to my gay friend as a transmasc
Hi Trixieandtoast, and welcome to the boards! I’m sorry to hear that you haven’t had your gender affirmed during intimacy — this can feel really disheartening as one goes through a transition, or even figures out one’s identity, so I hear you that this is a sensitive feeling. Indeed, gender identity...
- Tue May 07, 2024 7:42 am
- Forum: Gender
- Topic: is there a name for this?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 96
Re: is there a name for this?
Hi Axolotlperson! I hear you when you say your gender has always felt kind of back-and-forth, but I want to reassure you that feeling changes in how you feel about your gender identity is a normal process, and indeed, gender identity is often something that expands, evolves, and can change over time...
- Tue May 07, 2024 7:18 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: my vagina is really, really tight and I dont understand how anything beyond a popsicle stick could fit in there
- Replies: 1
- Views: 396
Re: my vagina is really, really tight and I dont understand how anything beyond a popsicle stick could fit in there
Hi there Shoelaces99, No need to apologize :) I appreciate your zest for figuring out what’s going on, and I hear you that these things can be confusing and overwhelming sometimes! Too, it’s totally okay to experience big emotions while you’re getting to know your sexual anatomy. All that to say, no...
- Sat May 04, 2024 7:02 am
- Forum: Bodies
- Topic: dulled sensation
- Replies: 1
- Views: 153
Re: dulled sensation
Hi there Axolotlperson, I’m sorry to hear that your g-spot is feeling different than it used to — I know it can be really frustrating when things don’t feel the way they did before, especially when it felt so good! So, there’s a few reasons why this can happen, but I first want to reassure you that ...
- Wed May 01, 2024 9:25 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Questions about chances of pregnancy
- Replies: 4
- Views: 253
Re: Questions about chances of pregnancy
Yes, you are correct. Since, in this case, there was no contact with ejaculate and the vulva or vagina, there’s no risk of pregnancy. Hope this helps!
- Wed May 01, 2024 8:37 am
- Forum: Sex & Sexuality
- Topic: Don't feel anything when masturbating
- Replies: 3
- Views: 411
Re: Don't feel anything when masturbating
Hi there Reidobviouslyy, and welcome to the boards! I’m sorry to hear that you’re not feeling much during masturbation — this can be frustrating to experience but I do have a few things I can recommend. When you say you can’t find your clitoris, have you tried to find it with your fingers only, or h...
- Wed May 01, 2024 7:45 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Clarification on Potential Risks and Types of Contact
- Replies: 11
- Views: 2415
Re: Clarification on Potential Risks and Types of Contact
Hi AlwaysLearning, We’re glad we can help! You are correct that there is no risk to pregnancy here, as you did not ejaculate onto her genitals. I hear your concern about semen that may have washed downward, but as Sam said, even if it did manage to wash down there, this would be indirect contact at ...
- Wed May 01, 2024 7:35 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: beginner sexual stuff
- Replies: 3
- Views: 160
Re: beginner sexual stuff
Hi there Ri, and welcome to the boards :) I’m glad to hear that you feel comfortable with your boyfriend, especially when experiencing new sensations and reactions! Tears falling during sexual activity is something that can happen for many different reasons, and you are definitely not alone here. So...
- Wed May 01, 2024 6:36 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Questions about chances of pregnancy
- Replies: 4
- Views: 253
Re: Questions about chances of pregnancy
Hi there Mayreilly, and welcome to the boards! What you are describing sounds like pre-ejaculate, or some mixture of pre-ejaculate and the lubricate in the condom (if you were using a lubricated condom). As you said the condom didn’t break, you can assume that the pre-ejaculate was contained within ...
- Wed Apr 24, 2024 1:15 pm
- Forum: Pregnancy and Parenting
- Topic: Condom Broke
- Replies: 3
- Views: 2178
Re: Condom Broke
Hi Brendie, Plan B is most effective if taken within the first 24 hours, so if she took Plan B within one hour, that would be within that window of effectiveness. That being said, it’s always a good idea to take a pregnancy test two or so weeks after taking Plan B, especially if she hasn’t gotten a ...
- Wed Apr 24, 2024 12:11 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: About sexual noises...
- Replies: 14
- Views: 2605
Re: About sexual noises...
Hi there MistahCFS, No worries at all! If I’m understanding you correctly, you’re right, when it comes to sexual media like porn, I think it’s less productive to worry about the legitimacy of the noises you hear, and perhaps more helpful to just hold an appreciation for the fact that porn is media, ...
- Wed Apr 24, 2024 11:21 am
- Forum: Sexual Identity
- Topic: I’m probably heterosexual but…
- Replies: 3
- Views: 2041
Re: I’m probably heterosexual but…
Hi there PomPom! I think something important to mention here is that having a “set” orientation is not a requirement to move through this world. In other words, you don’t need to put words to how you feel or identify unless you want to, or those words feel right to you. Too, there are an infinite am...
- Tue Apr 23, 2024 1:06 pm
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: About sexual noises...
- Replies: 14
- Views: 2605
Re: About sexual noises...
Hi MizdaCFS, In terms of how common it is for moaning and dirty talk to be faked in porn, I would say that insofar as porn is scripted, directed, and edited, you can bet that a lot of the moaning and dirty talk is not real, or maybe exaggerated if it is real. You can read more about it here too: htt...
- Tue Apr 23, 2024 10:31 am
- Forum: Got Questions? Get Answers.
- Topic: Wrinkly lump under urethra?
- Replies: 3
- Views: 1883
Re: Wrinkly lump under urethra?
Hi there Felismisc, Medical diagrams can be helpful for identifying general anatomical structures, but they tend to generalize some of the variations in appearance that you can see from person to person. For example, some people may have a larger inner labia and thus may not look as “smooth” or symm...
- Mon Apr 22, 2024 1:35 pm
- Forum: Et Cetera
- Topic: Songs for Sex Ed!
- Replies: 2
- Views: 4688
Re: Songs for Sex Ed!
That song is so awesome for this! I really appreciate when they sing “I don’t need everything from you”: this is such a good reminder in sex ed that our community is exactly that — a community of many people in many places — and not one person can do or be ~everything~ for us … and that’s okay! Than...
- Wed Apr 17, 2024 8:09 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Help needed: Pregnancy Risk
- Replies: 3
- Views: 1789
Re: Help needed: Pregnancy Risk
I’m glad I could help! You’re right, the sperm cells that could be present in pre-ejaculate really wouldn’t survive past being on your hand, drying a bit, then being wiped up. I hear you that a change in cycle length can be anxiety-inducing, but in fact “regular” menstrual cycles can often deviate b...
- Wed Apr 17, 2024 6:58 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Help needed: Pregnancy Risk
- Replies: 3
- Views: 1789
Re: Help needed: Pregnancy Risk
Hi there Ash51, No need to apologize! So, it sounds like there is no risk of pregnancy here. Even if there was pre-ejaculate on your hands, that would be indirect contact with pre-ejaculate, which doesn’t pose a risk to pregnancy. Pre-ejaculate can contain sperm (not always), but those sperm cells a...
- Wed Apr 17, 2024 6:48 am
- Forum: Ask Us!
- Topic: Late Period
- Replies: 1
- Views: 2020
Re: Late Period
Hi there Anne Janne, So, as long as there was no direct contact with ejaculate and your vulva or vagina, as in, your partner did not ejaculate onto your genitals, there is no risk of pregnancy. If it helps, though, sometimes taking a pregnancy test and actually seeing the result can help quell some ...