Hi caramia, welcome to Scarleteen! Ace and allo people can be and are in relationships. What’s important, as you mentioned, is that you tell your partner about your feelings so you can both be on the same page. Obviously, overstepping their boundaries is a big NO! But being open and clear with your ...

Hi Skybushh, That sounds really frustrating and I’m sorry you have to go through that. Sometimes your mind is your biggest enemy but messing up is human! I wish there was something I could tell you that would automatically fix the self-sabotaging, but as you know it’s a long process. Maybe you could...

Jay27,

Would you be interested in some resources for lesbians and by lesbians to help you engage with the community more?

Hey GenuineL, It all depends on your body. Every body is different, you may need to take it slower than some people or your body may adjust quickly to added stretching. Although the vagina is a muscle that doesn’t get ‘loose’, this is still something that your body may not be prepared for or used to...

Hi Stone, I want to start by validating your feelings. This sounds like something that has made you incredibly uncomfortable and I'm so sorry that you had to experience that. It does sound like this meets the definition of sexual assault. Although you may not have had sex or genital contact, it can ...

Hey trixieandtoast! I understand that this can cause a lot of conflicting emotions, but you are doing a fantastic job of verbalizing your feelings! He sees something in you, regardless of whether that is a friend, family, or possibility of something more. Am I right in understanding that your friend...

Hey CasWasHere!

While scary, nipple discharge isn't uncommon and doesn't automatically mean anything bad! However, I would definitely recommend telling your guardian and maybe booking an appointment with your primary doctor, especially with your medical concerns.

Huh, that is a bit baffling!

It is possible that the itching is actually a result of blood rushing to your genitals post-masturbation or orgasm. That can cause tingling or sensitivity and may just be presenting itself differently in your case!

Hi mel! These definitely sound like concerns that are causing you a lot of anxiety. Many people see the threshold between 17 and 18, minor and adult, to be this magical barrier that you cross one day where you instantly become a mature, fully settled adult but unfortunately that's not how it works! ...

Hi AParker98! It may be any number of things, I'll try to highlight a few for you to consider! If you use toys when you masturbate, you may not be cleaning them thoroughly enough which may be leading to your discomfort. Or alternatively, you may be cleaning them with something that is irritating you...

Hi CasWasHere! That's a valid concern! Does your guardian often open your mail? You could tell your guardian that you have a package coming and say that it's something mundane that they'd be less likely to care about opening, such as a pencil pouch or a new shirt. But if you do this don't make it so...

Hi hedera! You are correct that pregnant people can have bleeding that looks like 'periods' during their pregnancy, even up until they give birth! About 1 in 4 pregnant people have some type of bleeding during their pregnancy, due to a wide variety of reasons including implantation of the fertilized...

It seems like you have a lot of anxiety that you're dealing with. Here's an article that has Scarleteen-approved and recommended resources for handling that! Please note the specific section on pregnancy phobia and anxiety, as it seems like those resources may help you with your current anxieties. B...

Hey spottedowl! Navigating asexuality and dating in today's world can be hard and frustrating. How are you finding dates? If you use dating apps, something I've seen and done myself has been to write that you're asexual or looking for a non-sexual relationship on your profile bio. Not everybody is g...

Hi SillyMcGoof_ First of all, welcome back to Scarleteen! Asking your parents for a sex toy can be scary and feel awkward, but it's a conversation that has been had between kids and parents time and time again so you're in good company! It's nice to know going in that your stepmom is positive and co...

Hey GenderGay! You're definitely not alone in feeling like this, shaving can be super annoying and uncomfortable! There are a lot of options for managing public hair, we just have to find what works for you! Have you looked into hair removal cream (like Nair)? This seems like it could be your best b...

Chocolate Moose, Every body (and everybody) is different, so what works for them differs too! Some people are completely comfortable with tampons, others prefer menstrual cups, and some like period underwear and pads. For example, people with vaginismus (a condition causing painful muscle spasms in ...

Hey CasWasHere, First and foremost, you aren't ruined! Every body (and everybody!) is different. I understand it can be scary when you feel like you can't control your body. When you say your clit doesn't get big 'like it's supposed to', do you mean that in your personal self-love sessions your clit...

Hi Asking Queries! Nutrition is nutrition, and it's fantastic that you've found a way to eat that works for you and your body! It may be that your mom doesn't really think about the implications of what she is saying, as that phrase is a common expression; however, this doesn't mean your feelings ab...

Congrats Luna, I'm SO happy to hear that it went well!

Luna, I hope it helps your worry to know that if your parents react poorly, you have a place to stay with your friend. No matter how your parents react, you are incredibly brave for taking this step and we wish you the best of luck! This is new territory for both you and your parents, and there are ...

Hi bikinksterboy, I think that even if 90% of this is in your head, it's obviously still important to you and valuable to talk about! I'm happy that you aren't keeping it bottled up, even if you feel like some of it was 'complete nonsense'! At the end of the day, your gender identity is yours. A lot...

Luna, I'm so glad you had the chance to talk to someone you know about this, especially one who understands the anxiety firsthand! I agree with you about taking your time; don't feel like you need to rush this, it's your journey and your experience and you can take it as slow or as quickly as you ne...

Hi snakesarecoolB)! It's definitely possible that you aren't preparing yourself, body and mind, for masturbating and that's why you're having trouble maintaining your arousal. Unfortunately I can't give you a one-size-fits-all response, as everybody has different things that work for them. What I CA...

Thank you for your quick reply as well! As you plan to try partnered sex, is there any information you and/or your boyfriend would like or any topics you're curious about? Feel free to ask us questions; we're here to help, whether it's reassurance or education. Back to your original topic however; w...