Can you please also give any advice on my 2nd question ?

2. I don't feel a sensation in touching my clit when the whole area is incredibly wet, and I don't want to finger myself.

I'm really hoping it'll be different when I'm with a partner otherwise it'd be weird.

Thank you for the link and advice. I will definitely try without so many layers next time.

I didn't orgasm so I don't think it's that. I was talking it through with a friend, and am wondering maybe I was overly hot? Not in a sexual way, but in a covered under too many layers way, so maybe my hand rubbing against my skin caused sweat?

Hi Heather, Thank you for your response. But wouldn't I then be wet in my vagina too? I mean I didn't touch the inside but just the entrance to get some wetness, rubbed in on my clit in circles or whatever I did, and then my lips got wet but the vagina dried up? How can it be the vulva is wet but no...

It definitely wasn't urine. So this happened yesterday evening, but in the morning when it happened I could feel my clit going in and my outer lips closing if that makes sense?

Hello, Something new happened when I touched myself and now I'm worried. I was rubbing my vulva yesterday which became incredibly wet, but noticed the wetness wasn't from my vagina as that was fairly dry. Also the consistency was very different. This wetness felt more like sweat? I'm worried because...

Hi Sam, I think the best option would be to take a break as this will help me mentally. I posted this in another post with the same title which I'm assuming was deleted as it was repetitive, but lately (for example the past week or so) I've been touching myself when not turned on or mentally simulat...

Hi, I have been able to orgasm before, but it has happened so rarely. So for example, since December 2022 I have tried touching myself with the showerhead or my fingers. I have gone through periods of around 6 or so weeks where I haven't tried, or on other occasions have been incredibly stressed so ...

Thinking about this I remember I had the same issue early in the year, whereby I was stressing over it all and trying to force an orgasm. I decided to give it a mental break (which I want to do again) and only try when I'm in a sexual mood. After my break, I was able to orgasm (by taking my time and...

Hi, Thank you for the advice. 1. I have felt it become harder. I guess my expectations were higher so this isn't a concern I have anymore. 2. I think my life circumstances were different. Also, I feel like back then I wasn't putting pressure on myself so was going with what my body wanted. 3. That i...

"Firstly, with something often as personal and intimate as sex or masturbation it is difficult to get enough data to even know what is more usual and what isn’t among people..." This makes so much sense! It gives a feeing that because there are so many people out in the world, there must b...

So for example, in this context questions that I've obsessed over: - my clit doesn't feel like it enlarges when turned on. Is there something wrong with me? - Reasons why something might not be working whilst it did last time - I bet everyone else knows what they're doing and always come when they t...

Hi,

I've read that article before! I do refer to the 4 stages in my mind. The issue is I am an overthinker. Especially when it comes to intimacy, pleasure and men. Otherwise I'd love to follow your idea..

help lol

Hi again, I think the answer to this is clearly no, but can someone get the muscle contractions and not know? I am able to feel the other emotions, for example my breathing gets heavier, I feel a build up of tension lower down and then the pulsating around my clitoris starts, my body sometimes warms...

Hi, The thing is I've only had muscle contractions in my vagina once or twice. The 2nd time it felt like waves of pleasure, but after that time I've just been getting a pulsating feeling around my clitoris every few seconds. Sometimes l can feel it in my lower abdomen. Is this normal? Yes, the chang...

Hello, I posted on here a few months back about my first orgasm. I tried having another orgasm and was successful the next 2 or so times, however I didn't feel the vaginal walls contracting. Q: does that only happen for vaginal orgasms and not clitoral? Also, I tried pleasuring myself with the showe...

Hi Nicole,

Thank you for your response!!

I felt relaxed, like I could go to sleep, and my arousal had fully diminished. Instead I had to work (from home) but felt more positive about work.

Hi Sam, Thank you for replying!! Reading the article has helped. Thank you! I feel like I have gone through the 5 stages excluding "Orgasm for those with a vagina often involves a series of involuntary muscle contractions around the vagina..." This is where my doubt arises. Aside from orga...

Hello, I am fairly new to exploring myself. I have not yet had an orgasm using my hand. I did earlier have a sense of shaking legs, and a pulsating sensation in my clitoral area. There was a few seconds between each pulse. I did not end up breathless afterwards or feel flushed. I could not feel a pu...