Hi! I know this post has been up for a while, but I figured I might as contribute! I really like But You’ll Do by MALINDA (https://youtu.be/MSWSy9fpcpY?si=a63Jdf4JMhW0rnvk), it talks about a lot and is hard to summarize, but I like it as what feels like a song about strong but not enmeshing love. Pl...

More context/a question: I have a lot of mental health issues, this is just a main one. My friends are also autistic, all of them, which I think is totally fine (and cool sometimes), but useful context. Also, we’re all rather forgetful, which I’m also not sure how to bring up. I want to bring it up ...

(Content warning: Talks about feelings of social isolation, depression.) Hi, I’m autistic, and really, really need social interaction. I say need because when I haven’t had a good conversation (generally in person) in 2 or so days, I get really, severely, depressed, and it gets worse the longer it g...

Hi!
Thanks for the ideas — I wasn’t thinking of dates as a way to feel things out for some reason, (I keep thinking that you have to have your mind entirely made up on a person to ask them on a date, which I know isn’t true or useful but I keep thinking it).

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Great, thanks.

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In the User Control Panel, Specifically Board Preferences, tapping on Edit notification options goes to a blank, white page. If it matters, I am on mobile, specifically an iPad.

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Hi! It’s me, and of course, this means I have a new crush, who I’ll call K (she/her), she’s 16. I’ve known her for about two months now — we take the same classes together at school and we started talking after she emailed me a question. I really like her, she’s cool, smart, kind, considerate, and h...

*(Trigger warning/content warning: Talks about low weight, food, and medical problems)* Hi, First, I wanna say that I’m a skinny person, and so am welcome to any corrections or feedback on terminology, etc, that people have. For basically my whole life I’ve been low weight, but within the last year ...

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Haha, you’re now the second person I’ve introduced to Tennessee Ernie Ford.
Thanks for all the thoughts, I don’t have anything more to discuss on this specific topic. (I’m not sure what happens now, is the thread closed?)

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Hi Andy, Thanks for the article, I’ll take a look at it. Hmm, thank you for saying that. I think part of the problem might be that it feels like people don’t find me attractive, although I haven’t exactly gone and surveyed them. This specific person I had a crush on (which is friend A in my previous...

Hi, I’ve had a crush on this person for a while (maybe a year now). I told them about it maybe 6 months ago — they weren’t interested, although they didn’t say why specifically (I think they might have said that they don’t have a crush on me, but I don’t remember). They did not say explicitly that I...

(This post talks about dysphoria, I hope that’s ok/content warning) Hi, I feel like I’m physically unattractive to people who are attracted to feminine people, mainly because I’m a trans girl and have a lot of dysphoria. No one’s ever asked me out or said that I’m pretty to them — to be clear, I don...

Hi Andy,

Thank you, I wasn’t on yesterday because I saw A but didn’t really talk to them. I spent the entire class worrying/being sad about the situation, and an opportunity to talk never came up.

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Hi, thanks for the thoughts. I’m going to see A tomorrow, so hopefully we’ll be able to talk. I think my main worry is that they’ll think I’m punishing them in some way if I end the friendship. I’m also really scared of loss in general, and ending this friendship feels like it would be a big loss. R...

Hi, Apologies for this being a long post, this situation has evolved over around a year and has connections to basically every part of my life. I have 2 (maybe 3) close friends. For the sake of privacy, I’ll call the one I’m talking about in this post A. I’ve known A for about a year at this point. ...

Hello, sorry for this response taking a while.

Yeah, that makes sense.
I’m not in any sort of rush, so I’m just going to take things slow.
I really appreciate the advice, I’ll probably be back with more questions in a bit.

Hello everyone, it’s me again. I was telling yet another person (I’ll call them B) that I had a little bit of of a crush on them, and to my delight and surprise, they said that they also have a little bit of a crush on me. While I was talking with them, I felt totally safe and comfortable (with just...

Hello, I thought I’d give a little update: I told Q about my feelings for them, they weren’t interested in dating me, but we are still friends, so that went great. I haven’t talked to N yet, but I’m hoping to at some point. It was definitely scary taking the chance of telling them, but it worked out...

Thanks, I appreciate it!

Now is when I’d usually say to close the topic or something, but it seems like topics are left open here. (I don’t mind that at all, I’m just not sure how to indicate that I don’t feel like I need any more advice.)

I think I’m being dismissive, what I am experiencing definitely fits being allosexual, although it doesn’t feel very strong.

Sorry.

Yeah, that makes sense. It was a very rapid realization, so I think I kinda overreacted, instead of just thinking what you said. Although, I do think I have felt like this throughout my life, so perhaps I am allosexual, just in this way. (To be honest though, I don’t have all that much experience to...

Yeah, I think that’s the best way for me to proceed, probably starting with talking to Q, because I know them better.


Thanks for the help!

(I’m also wondering if any of you have thoughts on this, or maybe some ideas that would help me process this.)

Hello again. In one of my previous posts, I said that I was allosexual, but now I’m not sure. Now that I consider my various crushes, none of them have strong sexual elements, mostly romantic and platonic. I know that there isn’t always a hard line between those, especially for romantic and sexual, ...

Also, on the platonic snuggling with N thing, I already knew that I had romantic feelings for them when they suggested it, so it was more of a combined platonic/romantic skin hunger.

(I know the binary isn’t great, but I don’t feel like I have better terminology to explain.)