you’re very right, and god, all that was pretty eye opening i wont lie. thank you so much for that. i think i definitely need some help figuring out how to go about all this if thats ok. i guess im just worried bc they seem so happy and again, i love them a lot and i dont want to hurt them. i guess ...

i also just feel like all of this is my fault bc i got myself into this even though i had sort of a gut feeling that i shouldn’t and now im just unintentionally kinda playing with their heart/feelings by being like this

i dont know. i just dont want to make them upset, and i feel like a jerk especially because i kept going back and fourth in terms of this relationship, and im the one who brought up the idea in the first place. idk

im not sure. i really love them romantically too so i’m not sure. i like being in a relationship with them so i just dont know what to do.

hiya!! maybe idk. i really love them and wanna be with them so im not sure :(

hi! so basically i got a partner recently and they’re asexual. im allosexual and recently ive been having fantasies about them and doing stuff with them and yeah. earlier i talked to them about it and they said they didn’t wanna do anything which is ok, and they also asked me to try to stop having t...

ok that helps a lot!!! thanks!! :]

ok will do!! also i looked at the article and i’ll definitely try the things it says. ig for me its a mix of jealousy and anxiety, so im not 100% sure how to navigate that. i guess i could talk about that to them aswell but im worried. idk why bc they’re very similar to me in that regard but yeah id...

hiya!! thanks, i’ll definitely try that and see how it goes. i guess im also worried that like because i only know them online that they dont act the same in person and that i dont actually know who they are ig?? idk. that and the whole thing about them possibly thinking our relationship doesn’t hav...

so hi! im aromantic so stuff like this is an extremely rare occurrence. i wanna be with my friend so badly but some things make me worried 1: we only know eachother online and im worried they think of me as less and not as real of a friend/potential boyfriend than someone they know “irl”, bc thats w...

yeah you’re right i probably am, my apologies. i’ll definitely i guess try to reflect a bit more on this and try not to overthink as much. thanks for the help!!

yeah that makes sense!! i guess im just confused bc im not drawn to women unless its in porn, and even then i mainly watch stuff with men. like i only see myself having intimate relationships with men and im only sexually attracted to men but idk

that makes sense, thanks!! i usually dont like the stuff that features both men and women for some reason. it’s usually stuff thats either only men or only women so idk

that makes sense. i guess i sorta get aroused by like. the noises and stuff??? maybe the scenario?? the sexual acts in general? idk. i guess it kinda makes me doubt my sexuality and that im not really gay bc i get like that sometimes.

hi! i guess as a disclaimer im plural so that kinda muddies stuff a bit bc like depending on who’s fronting sometimes we *are* like actually attracted to women but thats pretty damn rare and for this post im mainly just speaking generally and as a collective. so basically we’ve identified as a gay m...

ok thats good to know. is my turtle gonna be ok and like all my other animals and stuff? sorry usually i would go to my mom for reassurance when it comes to my pets and stuff, specifically my turtle as he’s mainly my responsibility, but i would rather not talk to her about my personal endeavors if y...

so uh hi basically last night i jerked off, but i only touched myself with my hands for like a little bit. basically afterwards it was really late and i was tired so i was like “i’ll wash my hands in the morning” and this morning i forgot and i touched stufg like my animals and i put my hand in my t...

ok thank you!!! those are both very good things to know!! :]

oh!! also one other thing about the packer is that im worried that my mom will be super averse to the idea of me basically getting a fake penis and stuff. like she’ll be like “hell no you’re too young” or something. i dont wanna get one of the foam packer things bc i want a penis shaped packer to be...

oo ok thanks!!!

and dang, that sucks, but thats good to know

hiya!!! i dont think i need help finding a therapist atm. i did have a therapist for a few weeks but he left the practice so they’re trying to reassign me someone rn (hopefully they’ll find someone soon) i can definitely try all those things!! i have found packers that are like $27 or so so hopefull...

hi! so especially after i’ve started to become more comfortable with my sexuality, gender, plurality, etc, i’ve realized my bottom dysphoria has gotten a bit worse. mainly i just have this intense yearning for having a penis and being able to use it for various things like a cis dude would. i just w...

ok thanks!! i guess i’ll just think on it more and stuff and figure out what to do from there. btw theres only 3 people (including me) doing that kinda stuff atm. also yeah i do just kinda feel guilty and like i gotta get stuff out. also yeah you’re right. i feel pretty dumb and shitty (pardon my la...

hiya heather!! i would say what you said is a pretty accurate description of things, atleast when it comes to how i feel about everything, as i dont really know how they feel yet. i honestly might tell them, as it kinda feels dishonest to not do so, but ig im not super sure how to go about it (if i ...

oh crap i just noticed i posted this in the wrong category
ment to post it in sex & sexuality, feel free to delete this and/or move it (if you can do that)