okay i will try thank you,

i have one more question, can someone consent while they’re still high on weed or drunk? like if they’re not that high or that drunk

yes, my therapist has told me how i have been obsessively thinking about it and she thinks that since i didn’t use force or threats or stuff like that that i didn’t commit a crime. i just cant help but to feel worried and doubt myself even tho my ex told me that i didn’t violate him or pressure him....

my therapist said that i didn’t really commit a crime and since we did cross each other boundaries. i just can’t stop ruminating about it and it’s worse because i can’t remember everything and neither does he. all ik is that he told me that if he did feel like i assault him he would have remembered ...

i also forgot to mention, i still feel guilty about this one incident and idk if i should still. i remember is that i wanted him to finger me and i think he was hesistant and he did finger me. i also remember (i think he stopped fingering me) saying “PLEASEEE” even tho i think he said he had to go a...

thanks heather,

yes i have an appointment with her today so i am going to talk to her about it. thank you so much for all of your guys help and reassurance

sure i’ll talk about my feelings, i’m just worried. he said that he wasn’t bothered and that he’s used to it because his exes would do stuff like that and i felt really bad because what if he’s bothered by it in the future and like the only reason he doesn’t feel bad because he’s used to it. i keep ...

just to make sure,

so i didn’t sexually abuse or assault him?

thank you for ur reassurance, i was worried that i might have sexually abused him because i felt like i crossed boundaries. he also reassured me that it didn’t really bother him and that he was used to that type of stuff due to his previous relationships and i felt bad and told him that what they di...

i’m just scared that i may have sexually assaulted him with the whole blowjob thing

thank you for ur response carly,

i just feel horrible because even if i didn’t do it unintentionally i still violated his boundaries. i don’t remember any other times where i did the same thing. anyways, i will check out that article thank you

thank you marisha, im a huge overthinker and ur words really made me feel much more calm and relieved thank you. other than that i used to smack his butt playfully to annoy him because he doesn’t like it but i stopped because i learned more about consent. other than that, i don’t remember if he said...

basically, we had conversations about how its weird for a person to keep sucking after the guy cums because it feels weird for them. i still tried to do it to tease him but i stopped once he pulled away. i feel guilty and he said that it was fine and he wasn’t really bothered by it

all i know is that i wanted to tease him when i tried to keep sucking. i tried to but i didn’t really get to do it fully because he pulled away. i haven’t done it since. this guilt is coming from the fact that i was sexually coerced before and he was also pressured to do things he didn’t want to do ...

hey scarleteen staff, i cant help but to feel guilty what i did to my boyfriend. i give my boyfriend blowjobs and i stop after he cums. there was this one time where i think i accidentally kept going after he came, im not sure. anyways, i remember us talking about how it can feel intense and uncomfo...

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I need to know the risk of me getting pregnant. Me and my boyfriend grinded on each other naked. I rubbed the tip of his penis against my clit. That’s all. He didn’t put it inside the vagina and he didn’t ejaculate. I am scared if the pre cum thought

Wow I’ve never really thought about forgiving myself for that. I will defined try that. and yes sometimes i do journal and its very helpful not gonna lie

again thank you for the clarification about that. i just feel anger and resentment towards my ex best friend who randomly stopped being my friend and excludes me out a lot from our shared friend group. when she stopped being friends with me i felt so upset. i couldn’t stop overthinking and just nami...

thank you so much for trying to help me out i really appreciate it! and well one thing out of the list that i want to work on is how do i manage my emotions instead of dumping out on people?

im not good with emotional boundaries. i seek for people’s validation and i’m kinda a people pleaser. i dump my emotional stuff onto people hoping they could fix if. i don’t trust myself. i really want to improve this.

thank you for the article I understand how important it is to set boundaries but what if I don’t know what my boundaries are?

Thank you that helped!

It’s just I realized that I have low self esteem and i’m too hard in myself. I also have trust issues and poor boundaries. I want to improve on them. I don’t want to have these. I don’t know what my values or needs are

Hi,

I’ve been questioning so many things lately. How do I truly love myself? I know to love myself I need to know myself but as a 16 yr old teen i’m trying to figure out who I am. I don’t know myself. I want to love myself. I want to know who I am.

Thank you so much. I think that’s a good idea. I will try and do that!

These memories make me feel guilty because it makes me feel that I’m not over the relationship even though I don’t miss them or want them back. It makes me feel like I should be over it and it’s not okay. I usually get these memories because something happens and I get reminded of it. But i’m also s...

Hi Scarleteen staff! I’ve been thinking about my ex. I don’t miss him or anything and I don’t love him or want him back. I’m in a new relationship and I’m happy. But i’ve been getting anxiety because i’m thinking about my ex. I mostly think about past memories and I feel super guilty. Or I get remin...