Hey CasWasHere, First and foremost, you aren't ruined! Every body (and everybody!) is different. I understand it can be scary when you feel like you can't control your body. When you say your clit doesn't get big 'like it's supposed to', do you mean that in your personal self-love sessions your clit...

Hi Asking Queries! Nutrition is nutrition, and it's fantastic that you've found a way to eat that works for you and your body! It may be that your mom doesn't really think about the implications of what she is saying, as that phrase is a common expression; however, this doesn't mean your feelings ab...

Congrats Luna, I'm SO happy to hear that it went well!

Luna, I hope it helps your worry to know that if your parents react poorly, you have a place to stay with your friend. No matter how your parents react, you are incredibly brave for taking this step and we wish you the best of luck! This is new territory for both you and your parents, and there are ...

Hi bikinksterboy, I think that even if 90% of this is in your head, it's obviously still important to you and valuable to talk about! I'm happy that you aren't keeping it bottled up, even if you feel like some of it was 'complete nonsense'! At the end of the day, your gender identity is yours. A lot...

Luna, I'm so glad you had the chance to talk to someone you know about this, especially one who understands the anxiety firsthand! I agree with you about taking your time; don't feel like you need to rush this, it's your journey and your experience and you can take it as slow or as quickly as you ne...

Hi snakesarecoolB)! It's definitely possible that you aren't preparing yourself, body and mind, for masturbating and that's why you're having trouble maintaining your arousal. Unfortunately I can't give you a one-size-fits-all response, as everybody has different things that work for them. What I CA...

Thank you for your quick reply as well! As you plan to try partnered sex, is there any information you and/or your boyfriend would like or any topics you're curious about? Feel free to ask us questions; we're here to help, whether it's reassurance or education. Back to your original topic however; w...

Hi Lime_time, welcome to Scarleteen! I'm sorry to hear that you're having difficulty reaching orgasm while masturbating! You may be right that it can be attributed to your anti-anxiety medication and I'm sure you know you're not alone in that; it's a common side-effect! If you and your boyfriend are...

Did you get a chance to check out that article that Willa linked? Unfortunately, stories like yours aren't uncommon at all. The good part of that, however, is that there of a lot of resources out there about religious trauma and its relation to sexuality. BDSM, for example, is often a kink that is e...

Hey Lyle! That definitely sounds like a dilemma! At the end of the day, what you choose to do is up to you, but let's see if I can at least help you with your uncertainty! Regarding F, the only person who can say she has a crush on you is her; however, it does sound like she has some hesitation to m...

As Ellie mentioned before, it's common for people to have fantasies like this that may cause them distress after the fact. You may be correct that the aspect of your fantasies that is interesting to you and your body are the same that make them feel 'wrong'. With fantasies like these, the fact that ...

Hey eziver12! Can I ask what leads you to masturbate in the first place? Are you doing it because you feel the desire to or some kind of sexual arousal? Or is it more that you feel like you "should" masturbate... or something else entirely? We, unfortunately, can't answer the question of w...

Hey L@dybug! Welcome to Scarleteen! I am curious to know what you personally mean by edging, as that changes the response a little bit. Now that you spend twice as long trying to orgasm, are you still doing the same behaviors (ie. nipple play & dry humping) that you were using before? It's possi...

Hello juliapf! It seems like you have a lot of anxiety surrounding this subject! Discharge coloration can definitely be concerning; let's try and see if we can break that down for you! Brown discharge isn't uncommon and can be a slower menstrual flow or a pre-period discharge color. Additionally, pi...

Hey meowcrumbs! I'm sure you're frustrated. Please know that you're not alone; plenty of people struggle to reach orgasm and there's no magic answer as to how to 'get there'. Over Scarleteen's years, we've touched on this subject a few times and you may find this article in particular helpful in und...

Life can be very stressful and with everything going on right now in the world, self-care is more important than ever! So, what's something you've done recently to take care of yourself? It can be anything that makes you feel good, from taking a bubble bath to reading a good book! If you don't have ...